I’m for them. The money earned by the husband is his money and regardless of if there is no prenup, totally, completely shared accounts, he will constantly say “his money” by accident or not. I want to avoid someone telling me what I can spend his money on or what products I can’t.
Nothing wrong with planning ahead for the just in case it doesn’t work out.
Plus, when someone is used to buying rolex watches and using private jets, I’m not sure where I fit into all that with my Honda Civic and constantly budgeting so I’m saving more than spending. I don’t want his money.
I know and yes, that would be the 99.9% of people, of course, but I don’t want any of his things even if I did get a divorce, I wouldn’t want his mercedes or whatever he’s earned regardless of if it’s 4 mill or 6 mill.
I have a job too and I earn enough for a single person and i’m super happy so it would be with that thinking that I would go into a marriage because if I take ownership of all he’s worked hard to earn over the years, deep down I don’t feel right about it.
I fly coach to save money he flies business class on every flight. We come from different worlds.
With a marriage and shared accounts, both spouses have open access to every single account they mutually have and I want my own money for myself and he can have his own money for himself, splurging it on all his toys.
I want the marriage to succeed, isn’t that why people enter into marriages hoping that they are together until they’re toothless and 90? If he spends money on me, fine, buys me stuff, great, it’s mine after that.
I can’t imagine the explosive fights and arguments couples have over money matters.
I don’t have a prenup b/c I chose to marry someone who has the same views when it comes to money/lifestyle and similar spending habits. Choosing to marry someone who comes from a “different world” is not a good way to hope for a successful marriage b/c money won’t be the only thing you two will argue about in the future.
P.S. After marriage, how will the two of you ever travel? He’ll be in business and you’ll be in coach?
I have assets, a business, and a kid so I know my lawyer will be harassing me about having one should I get married again. Prenups aren’t just about money though… A lot of other concerns/situations can be addressed by them e.g. handling the death of one of you, child-raring, spending habits, how the couple wants to handle their aging parents, etc.
Ha! I don’t know…lols. I wouldn’t mind trying business, it’s not really something to argue about.
I was just using that as an example for I don’t really care about all the luxuries he’s used to. I want him to have them as long as he’s happy.
It’s really not about me. I’m happy in my own way.
Isn’t it a good thing to plan all that ahead of time? Who knows what tomorrow holds.
I have a prenup agreement. The popular belief that one can put whatever they want in a prenup is wrong. Unfair/unlawful prenups get quashed. There is absolutely no way to keep your earnings that occurred while being married from being divided at the time of divorce. Prenups are for grey areas, such as assets(brokerage account, real estate, etc.) that a party already owned before marriage but they keep earning due to them while being married. Prenups are to clarify and prevent such commingled assets from being declared as marital property. I owned some property before getting married that has great emotional value to me and I didn’t wanted it to be up for grabs ever.
So why get married at all, people can just have a religious marriage which is unregistered and utter 3 talaks and she is gone, this christian lebanese girl was telling me about her friend who was worried that any meal can be her last meal as, if there is too much/too little salt in food the dearest hubby can utter 3 talaks and she is done.