thx dear. some ppl never understand. i find this extremely rude to be compared with other bahu in the family.. its like i was a bad omen on the family becus of the fire in the house... fine, so maybe i was and am a bad omen in her son's life but makin me feel so miserable by comparing was not necessary at all. i cant even begin to explain just how badly hurt i m by her comments. Allah knows how it hurt my soul.
Comparing one bahu with another especially if the one being compared is the elder bahu is really degrading and it is hurting for the person being compared. The person comes in to a complex for no reason and it causes all sorts of tensions in the family. These kinds of things should be avoided. Oh and by the way, you should not think that the tent caught fire because of you, it was to happen and it did.