Re: Pregnant at 10
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Not traditional Paki style shaadis, just nikaahs.
Most kids start having bf's/gf's when they reach puberty, at least they did in my school at 13/14 yrs old...
My kids will get non-vulgar/non-crude sex education when they reach puberty and then I'll tell them we don't have one-night-stands or no-strings-fun in our religion but if you want to have sex then you can have an arranged/assisted nikaah with someone... Both partners can carry on lving with their respective parents and use contraception untill they both graduate, just like a bf/gf relationship but halal, halal-dating, a nikaah only takes 5 mins...
Kids are going to have sex no matter what, better we acknowledge it and make sure it's with someone we know and within the boundaries of our faith than deny our childrens feelings simply because it makes us cringe.
The other alternative is fornication, even worse older sugar daddies and druggies start luring sexually frustrated young'ns to use and abuse them under the guise of love... This is a big problem in this country and most the culprits atleast according to the media are Paki druggies but I know that Sikh and Black gangsters are doing just the same...
...Most the victims are young white girls because their parents are the most liberal and give them the most freedom whereas Paki/Sikh children have an earlier curfew, especially girls.
When I was at school in year 9 a girl in my class would meet an older married man at break time to do it in the park and she was only 13-14 at the time, she would boast about it to class, (I just remembered her after years I'm going to go search for her on facebook) she use to say he loved her but he was just a womaniser and prolly did the same to other girls...
That's the kind of thing we need to protect our kids from, that's why it's neccesary to understand our children and their needs more...
Abstinence with religious reasoning also works but in our sex saturated society it's not always enough..