Hey I know how you are feeling...my daughter had just turned 12 months when I found out I was pregnant again...I was soo upset and cried loads and argued with hubby. But now my daughter is 2 1/2 & my son is 1 and things are great. I love having them close together and I feel like the hard work is done and it really isn't that bad, people do it all the time. At the time I didn't realise but now I know that what Allah does he does for the best. You will be fine..u will look back and laugh one day at how u were feeling..I do! Remember all these hormones are making u upset too! X
I WAS pregnant again when my first was 7months too...so same boat.and honestly, its a joy. dont worry. my eldest now plays with her little sister whose also 7months now, and they are like best friends.....she realy takes care of her little sister. its too cute. mashallah.
First off, Congrats. Everything will work out. Dont worry too much already.
I'm in the same situation... My daughter is now about 11,5 months and I'm almost 4 months pregnant...it's going to be though but I think it's better to have a short gap instead if a big one... My nephew was 5 years old when my sister conceived her second son. My eldest nephew feels jealous all the time and wants attention from his mom. He doesn't even play with his younger brother...so it's better to have kids aghe piche.....
Secondly, lets now play the "angoor khate" card now, it doesnt sound good to make such assumptions, nor do I think it is healthy for you to already assume that the upcoming child is going to be crazy about no. 1 the way you want it and vice versa. This kind of pre-existing desires often make it more hard for the child. Let it come naturally.
mhmm yah
next time ladies use protection.
you know how babies are made if he doesn't have a condom on and you aren't on the pill then why assume you wouldn't get pregnant?
becoming pregnant isn't a guarantee, sans protection. in fact, its far from a guarantee. if you look into exactly how many things need to line up perfectly in order for you to get pregnant at all, its actually a miracle she had unprotected sex once and conceived!
plus, protection can fail too. condoms can tear, you can miss taking the pill once, i've even known people who've conceived with IUD's.
Thank akmoti im getting really nervous if my pregnancy is anything like it was frst im going to really struggle with my 8months old shes so active now mashallah can never be left alone for a secOnd
^awww cute!!!
i can imagine that!!!as my baby is also 8months old…n i have to walk around the house all day holding him…he doesnt like to sit even for a minute:smack:
Don't stress, my friend had her 2 girls they are just a year apart so are my brothers and all grown up now all are very close to each. My friend used to change nappeis for her girls same time, make 2 bottles each feeding time , bath em together, yes it may have been tiring but the girls ae so close and love each other so much. You will love it!
yes condoms can tear and you can miss taking the pill but then after that you can take the morning after pill. I'm sure there are people who do not want to get pregnant and in order to do that they take contraception pretty seriously.
Leaving it up to fate is bs in my humble opinion, if you truly wanted to leave it up to fate then you wouldn't use protection at all.
i dont think the opener has any regrets on getting pregnant again, it sounded as if she was a little overwhelmed and needed some emotional support. her reaction was a natural one, if she is BF, she will certainly stay away from any pills.
Congratulations Mizz Khan! May Allah swt bless you with a smooth pregnancy and easy labor and delivery. Ameen.
Your reaction is perfectly normal. Anyone in your position would react the same. Don't worry, everything will be fine iA! It will all be worth it when you have two kids with such a little age gap playing with each other. They will be best of friends :D I really wish I would've gotten pregnant earlier ... My daughter is now 2 and she just looks so lonely to me .. I really want her to have a sibling .. and iA their age gap will be 2.5 years. I wish it was a smaller gap.
yes condoms can tear and you can miss taking the pill but then after that you can take the morning after pill. I'm sure there are people who do not want to get pregnant and in order to do that they take contraception pretty seriously.
Leaving it up to fate is bs in my humble opinion, if you truly wanted to leave it up to fate then you wouldn't use protection at all.
sure, but i don't think she doesn't want the baby, or conversely, wasn't planning to have any more children. its just a shock to her at the timing and the fact that she conceived after just one time.
as for fate, well, that's personal opinion. i think this baby was fated to be conceived simply because, as i said, it takes a lot of things to fall into place exactly and then for you to have sex at the exact time too, for conception to occur. i don't mean leave it up to fate with using protection generally (that would not be smart if you are not financially or emotionally prepared to have any children), i'm talking specifically about this circumstance, this girl and this baby-to-be.
There is very high chances of getting pregnant again right after the baby. Thats what my obgyn told me after I went to post pregnancy checkup. she offered me to take pills etc.
