Pregnancy after miscarriage

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Hello,

has anyone ever had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage?

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My BFF had two successful pregnancies after a miscarriage. Perfectly normal pregnancies with healthy babies. Mashallah.

If this is about you or someone close to you...please don't lose faith.

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4 miscarriages back to back....2 pregnancies after, 3 healthy boys born (second pregnancy was twins).

Don't lose faith or get disheartened. Remember, a miscarriage is Allah's sign that the pregnancy wasn't viable for whatever reason, and wasn't meant to be.

If reoccurring miscarriages take place, like in my situation, then get proactive, make sure you have a qualified specialist and find the reason why. These days, there rarely is a problem that can't be fixed :)

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2 miscarriages then 3 beautiful kids, the 3rd was a surprise. It's hard to not worry and stress about it. The Drs would not investigate until u have 3 miscarriages here, so didn't know why, but just accepted it as Allah ki marzi. I worried my way through my 3rd pregnancy n didn't believe it would work out until the baby was in my arms.

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Thanks for all your replies guys. I had a miscarriage in October last year, but it wasn't discovered until December on my first scan :(. In pregnant again alhumdulillah but literally only 5 weeks. Every day I'm worried and its all I think about. I can't seem to think any further then the next day and I feel like I can't get attached to this pregnancy. Not once have I thought about future with baby or anything. :( I am really scared and worried. I'm not sure I'll be able to handle a miscarriage again because it was horrible last time, especially when it was discovered so late. Even thinking about having another miscarriage right now is making me feel sick. Every time I go to the toilet and check if I am bleeding even though last time I didn't bleed or anything to alert me that there was a problem. I don't think I'll be able to rest until I have a screaming crying baby in my hands. I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this, as supportive as husband is, I don't think he really understands how it feels to go through this emotionally and physically :( I know I should stop worrying but it is so much easier saying it. BLAH!

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One of my miscarriages wasn’t called until I was at 11.5 weeks, had I not finally made the decision for the d&c I would have hemmoraged as it was discovered that the placenta had attached outside the uterus.

I have a friend who lost her baby at 24 weeks, another who lost her twins at 28 weeks and yet another who lost her baby in the 7th month…point being, ALWAYS be greatful for what you DO have, not what you DON’T. There will always be someone worse off then you are. Dwelling on what could happen is not going to change anything or do you any good. You have to find ways to divert your attention away from your past experience.

It is hard, believe me when I say I KNOW!!, but look at the responses you’ve gotten here from those of us who have been in your position or worse. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and for your own good please find a way to get out of this fearful mindset. :hugz:

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I have a friend who had a baby then lost 5 babies all very late on between 7-8.5 months and has to give birth to all of them. Which is so hard after losing a baby. She then went on to have another healthy baby. The gap between her 2 kids is 14 years.

My husband was very supportive after both my losses, even though I was going practically crazy, but I felt he never understood properly and used to spend all day crying as I was an emotional wreck but he just kept on saying Allah ki marzi thi. I used sit and dwell over what i should have and should have not done, done, or what might have caused it for example I thought maybe I has lifted something heavy or eaten something garam. But Alhumdulillah got over that time. In my later pregnancies I ate anything n everything, n even lifted my older kids so this things r all just in the head, these what ifs…

Inshallah you will be fine. Try n stay positive n happy, try not to stress as this can’t be good for the baby. Keep yourself busy and surrounded by friends and family which will help distract you and remember Allah n do dua. I feel that once you get to the 12 week stage n have your first scan then these should put your mind at ease as its the first trimester which is the most critical. Then when the baby starts moving it also gives peace of mind.

But for now just take each day as it comes and don’t dwell on the past. Try n enjoy your pregnancy as it is such a wonderful feeling.

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I cannot imagine what you’re going through.

I will say…I was high risk due to a few different reasons and the uncertainty I heard in my doctor’s voices had me sitting at the edge of my seat until I hit month 5. That’s when it started to feel real.

Up until then, it was just me watching every move, not knowing if what I am doing is hurting me or helping me. At least a little later, you can rely on movement and kicks but in the beginning all you have is your doctor’s visits and scans.

Hang in there, easier said than done I know but just hang in there. :hugz:

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3 miscarriages then alhumdulillah a successful pregnancy. Have a baby girl and alhumdulillah I'm only two weeks from my due date for my second baby.
Miscarriage is really common. There are so many people that have gone through it its unbelievable.
As for your husband, poor guy he won't understand exactly how you feel. Its different for guys. They are obviously upset but get over it quicker. Its just they aren't in the same position as us. They don't go through the actual miscarriage. They don't have those physical changes and the emotional attachment women usually have so early on.
Its stressful and you're emotional and hormonal. Obviously you will worry that's just natural. Best thing to do is leave everything to Allah. Especially in this blessed month, do plenty of dua, read Qur'an and try to pray all your five salah. Everything happens for a reason and there is good in everything that Allah plans for us. Even if we don't see it. Just try to relax (I know that's hard to do) and stay positive and be happy :) inshallah everything will work out. Will keep you in duas inshallah.

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Thanks guys. I know, I’m so grateful for not going any further in my pregnancy. I didn’t see the fetus on screen which is a good thing I guess. I’m taking every day as it comes and inshallah it’ll be a healthy baby. I’m really taking advantage in this blessed month and doing all the duas and prayers alhumdulillah one will be answered. I never thought pregnancy would be so nerve wracking. I guess once I start hearing the heartbeat I’ll feel a bit better. Once the first trimester is over I know I’ll be able to relax just that tiny bit more :hugz:

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Never lose hope. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks last August. Didn't even make it to my first prenatal appointment. I started trying again after 6 months and am pregnant now mA and just had my twelve week appointment today and everything is AH healthy. Miscarriages are natural and most women experience one at some point in their life while trying. It's just the body's way of knowing something wasn't right. Majority of early miscarriages they say are due to chromosomal problems in the fetus so know there are some things we just can't control. Inshallah you will have a healthy pregnency. I was in your position about a month or so ago and made it this far. You'll probably start to feel symptoms as you move into 6 weeks of nausea and sickness so know that's a good sign until you can make it to the doctors office. We saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks and once you see that they say there's around a 5% chance of mc after that and after 12 weeks it goes down to 2% but ofcourse that's just stats so don't bother worrying yourself. You'll make it inshallah, stay happy and healthy and focus on eating everything you can before the nausea arrives. :) just relax.

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Congratulations on your pregnancy. Inshallah you have a successful and healthy pregnancy. Yeah miscarriages are so common some people don't even realise, I have already started feeling nauseous and I'm 5 weeks. The nausea was really bad last time and the doctor said because of how bad it was it must mean that it's a healthy pregnancy but I know now that isn't always the case. I know I'll be relieved when at least I hear a heart beat because I didn't last time. I've changed my doctor, to a doctor who I've heard is good and more attentive which is what I need right now. Plus he's also closer than my previous one. I have my first appointment with him on the 11th inshallah I'll be able to get some more reassurance off him and maybe even hear a heart beat. Thanks for your kind words. I'm just taking every day as it comes and trying not to think too far in the future. I'll be so nervous when it comes to 7 weeks though. How did you feel when it came around to the same time as the miscarriage? Luckily I have some time off from work because I'm going to start a new job so just relaxing all I can.

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Mamiji had a miscarriage....later on she had my bhanji (gudiya..who I hate bcz she just latches herself )....and yes its perfectly normal...... You just take care of urself and be positive... Cause depression has a bad affect.... Stop worrying....

It will be all right.... Every body's hopes will help u... And u just take care of urself....;)

Don't stress out... Have anything just blurt it out....those violet faces don't look good on a future mother....

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Pregnancy after miscarriage

Congrats on the pregnancy inshallah everything wjll go well. You can push for your GP to send you for an early pregnancy scan given that you had a miscarriage before or get a private early pregnancy scan theyre around £40 for peace of mind inshallah everythjng will be okay just remember dont stress take it easy and inshallah everything will b okay.

Im quite a anxious person and i ended up having a early scan as i was just always worried as we had ttc for a while but 14 weeks on im slowly relaxing more! xx

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Thank you for the kind words!

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Yeah I have my first GP appointment in a week today so I will tell him all about my concerns. I guess if he doesn't push for early scans then I will just go to private scans! I totally forgot about private scans but thanks for the reminder! I'm a worry wart too! And I find it so hard to not worry. Literally taking it every day as it comes and I'm even preparing myself for a miscarriage if it happens again. But inshallah it won't. :) congrats on your pregnancy too!