Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

[decentGuy]

Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

@Reha

If you feel they are red flags then you guys need to move on. A girl who wants to work and care for her parents needs a man who has a very strong moral compass. This is not the right family for you nor are you for them.

Personally, I don’t think wanting to care for one’s parents are red flags. I don’t think being attached to the people who birthed you, raised you and loved you since you were born are red flags. Who else will you ever be loyal to if not your own mother and father? How can a woman be a good wife if she can’t feel for her parents? Why would she ever care for her in-laws if she doesn’t care about her own parents? I felt this way when I got married…I didn’t sleep for almost a month knowing my parents were sleeping in an empty home and I wasn’t there. This same trait is admired in a man. But not in a woman because our Hindu ancestors have taught us that girls are to be wed off.

Divorces are never initiated because she didn’t like the color of the guy’s tie and freaked out because she’s got a split personality disorder and today she is having issues with the color orange.

Take it from someone who’s been there and has been a part of many support groups that worked with women who had been through it. Its always a slow but steadily building pile of issues that have constantly been ignored and neglected that eventually lead to someone needing to leave.

Your approach is naive because you’re trying to draw very big conclusions from circumstantial evidence.

And to be clear, I am not saying this rishta is right for you…I am saying your approach will not land you with a winner. That’s all.

You and I see eye to eye on nothing. Not only am I okay with that but I am quite certain it is a positive thing. You are more than welcome to ignore my posts as its a given you are only here to bait.

Just for the record once again, having good family relations are always a plus in my eyes.

Also I’m not at all saying divorced women have some problem, but some of them do have issues that could have been found before marriage. I know some divorced women personally who will make the best wives iA of a reasonable man. There are even some married Angelina Jolies out there with all 4 red flags but as long as they are someone else’s problem, it’s alright.

This is not mathematics, we can have difference of opinion.

[Reha]

Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

@decentGuy

Just for the record once again, having good family relations are always a plus in my eyes.

Also I’m not at all saying divorced women have some problem, but some of them do have issues that could have been found before marriage. I know some divorced women personally who will make the best wives iA of a reasonable man. There are even some married Angelina Jolies out there with all 4 red flags but as long as they are someone else’s problem, it’s alright.

This is not mathematics, we can have difference of opinion.

An opinion is “I don’t like the color white”…this is not an opinion. This is borderline unethical.

Having good family relations does not sustain a marriage. They all go back to their own homes and leave the people who got married to deal with their own issues. Its not the family’s responsibility to make it work nor is it their problem.

Yes, and I know of some gay Pakistani men who married qualified, good looking girls only to have affairs with their boyfriends right in front their wives’ faces. Those women suffered a lot but each one is happily remarried with kids and careers. I also know a girl who’s husband married her ONLY to please his family so he could carry on with his girlfriend privately. His parents assumed she would fix the mess they’d made. Oh and another girl who married a bipolar guy who’s parents lied at the time of the wedding and had him heavily medicated throughout the process. She left after he refused to continue to take his meds. Another girl who was sent home with broken fingers. The list goes on…and these are only girls I know personally.

Please stop objectifying women. The day you’ve rid yourself of these plagues is when you can approach a woman like she’s a lab rat and examine her for defects.

On second thought, your friend needs to leave this poor girl and her family alone.

[Reha]

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And in case I wasn’t clear…its offensive. Your mindset and approach are highly offensive.

[decentGuy]

Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

@Reha

And in case I wasn’t clear…its offensive. Your mindset and approach are highly offensive.

May be this is offensive in your opinion, you have a right to have your opinion and I respect that.

[Iconoclast]

Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

@decentGuy

Just for the record once again, having good family relations are always a plus in my eyes.

Also I’m not at all saying divorced women have some problem, but some of them do have issues that could have been found before marriage. I know some divorced women personally who will make the best wives iA of a reasonable man. There are even some married Angelina Jolies out there with all 4 red flags but as long as they are someone else’s problem, it’s alright.

This is not mathematics, we can have difference of opinion.

Angelina Julie is worth the effort. And one should be Brad Pitt to marry Angelina, meaning that once you break up, there will be other women in line, waiting for their chance.
If your axe is ready, don’t fear friendship with Fox.

[Reha]

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Although I do agree with the general consensus of this thread now of “run the f away”

It seems like a bad match and not in anyone’s best interest.

If your friend and you share mentality and values then its a waste of time for both sides.