what is the brides’s side supposed to do when the groom’s family comes to set the date for the wedding? (We have had the engagement already)
we’re making dinner for his family obviously, but do we need to do the mithai and flowers and gifts thing? if so what do we give?
Or am i making a big deal and is it just an informal dinner?
What did you girls do?
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^ umm usually the parents are supposed to take care of that, thy know what to do..
i've heard of mithai being distributed after hte date has been set though...
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i knew you'd answer!
erm yeah, my parents are not experienced in this kinda stuff... both don't have family and we live in a very white area... so this is all a bit new! i think we'll do the mithai thing...
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I only know of distributing mithai...never heard of giving gifts or flowers...
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I think you are supposed to have the mithai there so everyone can do mubarak-mubarak and moun meetha kijiye. I dont think you need flowers or anything. Btw, congrats on the baat pakki!!!
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yeah mithai is a must.. make sure you order the one that you like since you will be the one eating the most of it.
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is that good or bad? 
Is your fiance’s family very “traditional” and experienced in this type of stuff? Because if not (and even if they are :p) I think mithai should be the safest/best to do…Also, personally, we really didn’t really “do” anything.. our families only met once and that was for the baat-pakki..After the engagement my parents distributed mithai to all our acquaintances and relatives. there was nothin special held or done once the date was set or when parents went out to give the invites, for the very reason that we were all spread out across 4 different countries, so all our planning was done over the phone. Uhm it really does depend on teh family if htey’re very traditional or not.. I say just act as if you would if it were another dinner wiht the future in-laws, dress up incely, proper dinner and of course mithai..
And btw, what is “palava” ? 
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i knew you'd answer was meant in a good way! it seems that all wedding related matters are generally answered ok-ish but you and somegroovychick answer super well, in the kinda detail that i and other guppies want!
palava, a bit of english slang saying...erm kinda means 'problematic stuff'
So ambala mithai it is...yummy!!!
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yaay yummy!!! lol
yea thats all u need 2 do really just the mithai let the boys fam sort da rest
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just mithai no gifts, otherwise they will always expect gifts
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Hey.
Got your pm but since I dont have 25 posts, I cant pm you back.
Just to answer your questions, naveeda did the makeup for my valima in london in mid jan.
She charged 400 pounds which included hair, makeup, hair accessories ( pins and the extra piece you need to twist into a bun) and bought all her makeup with her.
I liked the job she did. I asked her to keep it natural looking since I dont like the heavy look and she didnt overdo it. She asked me to choose between colors for my eye makeup and didnt leave till I was satisfied. She def knew what she was doing, everything was effortless.
Let me know if you need any more info. If you like, I can send you pictures so you can see how she did it.
Good luck with all the preparations!
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sorry i cannot help here.
i have not done this.
must be breath taking. :)
may you have a blessed wedding and a very nice dinner with him and his family.
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Sorry I cant pm you in response.
Just wanted to let you know that Ive emailed you the pics from the valima, let me know if you need help with anything else.
The wedding was in Karachi so I didnt have to worry about where to get shadi makeup done in London, just makeup for the valima.
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$800 are you freakin kidding me??!?!??!! Does she turn brides into Iman or Vaneeza or some one ??!!! 
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$800 is pretty much standard pricing, it goes $1000 fr a couple of the other ones....then if you add travel on top of that if you don't live in london it $1000++++
i told we get ripped off totally here...it's crazy prices and it's all standard now...so you have to be rich even to have a standard wedding!