gosh Tklucky! 2 months! hope it all goes well for you! are you nervous? excited?
I know my mum means well as all parents do but it's really putting me off marriage. I am sure my mother in law will always be mean or rude to me and same goes for my husband! and I know its a minefield after marriage but the bad side has been drummed into my head so much that I will never expect anything good to happen. All my mum is saying is 'never expect, because as soon as you expect, you will be disappointed'. she paints such a gloomy picture of marriage that its a wonder that her marriage lasted so long! Alhumdulilah.
ahhh..still gotta love her for it!
Best of luck for both of you!!! I am not that close to this situation yet - but I am getting engaged this Saturday and my mom has ALREADY started drumming certain things into my head. SHe does so especially because I am in a very odd situation - I live in a different state from my parents and actually live in the same city as my fiance-to be and his family. This is where I went to college and now job. So even before shaadi - I am at their house all the time and already being treated like the "bahu". I know exactly what you are talking about stardust when you say that "everything has been drummed into my head so much that I will never expect anything good to happen". My mom gives me the same advice as well. And obvi she has my best interests at heart and I am sure she is freaking out about the weird situation I am in (living closer to my MIL than her before the shaadi). So you are not alone with your feelings Stardust. It is actually comforting to know that I am not the only one out there that feels the way you do.
Tklucky - I am also the eldest! Everything is new for my parents. That does not make it easier.