So, married people (if you don’t mind sharing with us) do you have one?
Single people, would you consider having one?
I think I’d have one. I mean it’s only fair right? You keep yours and your partner keeps theirs. No?
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whts pre-nups
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No. I did not have a pre-nup because I'm not rich. I got married after paying off my student loans, and did not have any savings yet.
BUT I had already VERBALLY told my hubby - whatever is "his" - remains HIS.
(He roared out laughing!)
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Im not having one...he shares what he has so openly and so do I...its fine.
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Bon-Bon how r u nowwww
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Im doing a little better now...Alhumdulillah...thank you for asking. Ive been sleeping all day because my medication makes me drowsy.
I think this is a very WEST thing … husband wife should start their relationship on strong bonds of trust rather then getting each other to sign pre-nups ! .. however this is tricky ..
if you look at it , a woman is anyways protected with hak-mehr and if godforbid her marriage doesnt work out then she posseses what was hers and the hak mehr … and the man’s wealth is protected highly as well .
however i guess here in the west , i guess if one doesnt know the other family very well , its only but safe to go through this …
to be honest though , i see it as a big put-off .. unless one is a celebrity or something ! it seems pointless ! 
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My understanding is that according to Islam......if a woman initiates the divorce.....the she does not receive her haq meher or anything from her husband unless he gives her from the goodness of his heart.
And if the husband initiates the divorce.....then the wife only gets the amount of her haq meher.....and if the husband wants ....he can give more than that.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong. But if this is how it works.....then Islam has safeguarded/set the limitations for both parties.
I'm not sure how I feel about prenups. I can understand that the really wealthy want to safeguard their assets.....as that can be taken advantage of. And it's normal to want to be safe......because people don't always play fair in nasty situations like divorces. At the same time....there is something about a prenup that makes the marriage seem like a business deal....and in a way it makes you wonder if the other person is afraid of the relationship failing before it even begins or if they value the materialistic things more than the relationship. I can see both angles to it....the practical one....and the uneasy side to it.
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Bon.......why are you on medication girl? Hope it's nothing serious and that you get well soon:)
i agree
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Before getting married I spoke to my husband and said don't even consider drafting a prenup because I will not marry you. Ofcourse he didn't and he also does not believe in a prenup. He's from the idea that whatever the couple has is theirs to share.
It really depends on the individual.
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oh no sweety posted in life forum:no:
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haq meher is not only for divorce. wife can demand her haq meher whenever she wants its her right. she can have it right after she gets nikahfied or she cna leave it or she can have it for anythign else. husband got to give it ot her without a question.
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If someone is even in a position to THINK of a pre-nup..then theyy are far more fortunate than alot of others who have NOTHING.
Bon.......why are you on medication girl? Hope it's nothing serious and that you get well soon:)
LOL...nothing serious...just Tylenol PM that makes me sleepy like no other...:)
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I have one
but my wife is the only beneficiary on it
It's called 'HAQ MAHER'
:D
haq meher is not only for divorce. wife can demand her haq meher whenever she wants its her right.
Sure...anytime....
And husband can refuse everytime.....and say ...get a life yaar
My understanding is that according to Islam......if a woman initiates the divorce.....the she does not receive her haq meher or anything from her husband unless he gives her from the goodness of his heart.
And if the husband initiates the divorce.....then the wife only gets the amount of her haq meher.....and if the husband wants ....he can give more than that.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong. But if this is how it works.....then Islam has safeguarded/set the limitations for both parties.
You are wrong...
in one point.
If wife asks for it, and husband refuses, she can offer money to husband in return of divorce in the form of giving-up the HAQ MAHER
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hmm. interesting, i did not know prenups were financial agreements. I thought they were actually terms of marriage. For instance, I heard of one girl have in her prenups that she will divorce her husband if he takes another wife (she was a convert, and the polygamy concept unsettled her). maybe that wasn't a prenup, maybe it was something else.
Sure...anytime....
And husband can refuse everytime.....and say ...get a life yaar
wat a kanjoos husband!