I am having all those feelings - stress, panic, fears of moving to a new country/new family, am i doing the right thing, what if i mess it up etc and such feelings. Are these natural before your nikkah? My wedding still has 3-4 months left, i shouldnt be so worried. Me and my fiance dont talk much but we do have on & off chit chat over the internet.
I am just confused overall and having panic attacks. I also have mood swings that are coming out on my family members. 
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hug its normal :)
i keep having cold feet about leaving my home more than anything. Like yesterday i was watching star plus with mum just us 2 at home like usual as all the boys were out. And then i thought who will be sitting with my mum in 3 months time when i am married :(
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natural
we're on the same boat*sigh*
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awwww dont paniccccc its allgood fun emotions play a big part of it my weddings in october inshallah im very excited now but prob would feel scared nearer the time dnt worry sis relax and enjoy xx
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Im right there with ya girl! Im pretty stressed bout the whole new family thing. I mean I cant just adopt a new family as soon as I sign the nikkah papers but thats whats expected and its hard to open up to this whole new set of people and jump right in as a member...
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I'm in the same boat!! Although my wedding is in December.. Good luck with everything love <3 u'll do just fine IA!
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I keep feeling the same way...
Should I not go through with this..
will things work out. and alot of what ifs
good thing u dont talk 2 ur fiance much because I think I am bugging my fiance with all my wht if questions.. lol
but it is really a nice time because my mom n fiance r so comforting and reassure me tht things will turn out perfectly.
I m having panic attacks about every little thing..
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stress, panic,
its been 15 years for me and I still feel the same way.
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I think you should be fine, its temporary, and once you adjust everything will be ok. Its natural to feel such a way when a huge change comes about in life. Just find activities that will help you relax, and enjoy these days. InshAllah you will be fine.
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You are not alone - not just based on my feelings but what so many other girls have also expressed.
My wedding is less than 3 months away… eek …I am having a love marriage and technically not evening moving because I already live in the same state as my fiance and different from my parents (due to work). But still I am having the same feelings as well. And yes the emotions are getting the best of me and I take them out on my family …over the phone! I start crying easily and get moody or even irritated when I speak to them. It is all the stress that is coming out.
So yea… i think these are natural feelings to have since so many girls feel the same way regardless of what kind of circumstances they are getting married under…
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your thinking way to much about it....what ifs..should be kept to a limit or else youll drive yourself nuts.
enjoy ur time with your family make personal time for yourself...and be happy the last few months as a single/unmarried girl...youll regret it if you waste it stressing.
= )
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i agree with moizgirl honest just relax get into the shopping and excitement of things everythings fine namaz does help also!!! ;) relaxes you!! but im very excited to get stuck into the designing and creating side of things ooooo xx
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omg thats jus how i feel too...my wedding in december time and i so cant leave my family, im really short tempered and its really hard for me to get along with sumone like im afraid what if i ruin everything...if i dont get along with my saas nandz bhabhiz...oh lordddddddddd im 23 and i stil think im 20 uffff wha do i do :(
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haha and I am 19 and I keep thinking 'y m I getting married so early?' only 1month 15days left:|
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^^ ur jus too young for a marriage! Couldnt u jus say NO for now? :D
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I have till Dec and I'm trying to keep a lid on feeling the Wedding emotional jazz...dont worry DaffyDuck!! Inshallah these months will fly by and you'll be happy as a clam with your new people. I have no communication with any of my future-laws though so its a little frightening...and i'll be moving to a new state with complete strangers...oh GOD..sigh so much for reining in the bridal-pms :(