My original question is do you think guys are being pressured into becoming doctors because of status and rishta process? That it makes these guys better catches?
I don’t know. Each matrimonial event I go to , the doctor boys are the worst to talk to. They can’t carry a conversation, most are angry and bitter and it shows, and they don’t have much free time to have a life. They have little to no qualify dating experience so they don’t even know how to talk to girls. They have this attitude of “I make a good salary you should be thankful you have the opportunity to talk to me”. Most I talked to don’t even have scientific inquiry or clinical practice interests anymore. They just are worn out and it shows.
But I am coming across a lot of guys who didn’t make it and when I ask them about it they say they weren’t interested in it in the first place. They did premed in college because parents made them and then they realized they can’t get a job with a bachelors in biology.
Yeah no kidding. Why did you do it in the first place? You should have done what actually interests you.
^ Pakistani girl doctors are notoriously known for having studied just to get rishtas. I say this based on a relative’s admitted desire to up her rishta resume.
That being said, she moved to the U.S. and the free ride was over! She now practices in the U.S.
I thought someone once posted stats on women doctors in Pakistan and the number who abandoned the profession either right after getting their MBBS or doing their house job, because they got married and it was not compatible with their married life
its not for rishta purpose, its because brown people are so obsessed of having their kids to be a doctor. they couldn’t be a doctor in their life so they enforce their life choices on their kids because thats what their parents did to them. They don’t see if their children have potential to be a doctor or not. They just want them to be there so that in family gatherings they can say “oh, mera bacha to doctor hai”
I have seen so many girls going to med school just to get good rishtas. If girls don’t look good on paper, desi guys just don’t take interest in them I guess & vice versa.
So do they get good rishtas then? Because all I see around is professional (MD etc etc) girls struggling to find a good rishta.
Good on paper? You mean good all around - that’s what desi guys want. They don’t want the nerdy girl with glasses and braces who is doing top of her class. They want Aishwariya Rai with a stethoscope and who can make gol gol rotis that’s at least what I understood from Life1 so far.
I also know a few families who literally waited it out until they could snag a doc-damaad for their daughter. And we’re talking about daughters who had just done their bachelors - which don’t get me wrong - I don’t mean “just a bachelors” in a derogatory manner. But, I could never understand the family’s insistence kai damaad HAD to be a doctor!
One girl married a guy about 12 - 15 years older and the other a guy with his MBBS (I don’t think the MBBS ever qualified as a doctor in North America) - but doctor to milgaya!
Well some of them actually scored some nice guys from abroad & now they are housewives. Both, guy & gal, got what they wanted lol, guy wanted a doctor wife to show off & she became a doctor to get a good rishta. So yeah mission accomplished. By becoming a doctor they will of course look good on paper thats what they want to get good rishtas these days. Who wants a nice girl with decent character, people are going for material things & want perfection in everything these days I guess.
Nope that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying there are some guys out there who became doctors just to increase their chances of getting a good catch. A chance they might not have had otherwise for whatever reason (the guy isn’t good looking, fat, poor, etc). An ugly male doctor can find a very good looking girl. I’ve seen it many times.
As for the whole doc-damaad syndrome, my parents and sis have always had this preference. Sister because she thought it would be easier for them to relate to each other. Parents, purely for prestige. They did consider proposals from other professionals too but they always had this bias that doctor > other professionals.
Aaze, maybe you don’t live in a densely populated desi area, so these things are new to you. But trust me, there are plenty of people with such preferences.
Are you serious? I am an accountant in Canada and I can assure you, doctors here make a lot more than that. Especially, a specialist.
Yes, there is more money in the States, but that’s not specific to doctors alone. It applies to other professions too.
