How much did you interact with your in-laws before marriage? Was it expected that you’d call them up and say hello? Or did you keep your mouth shut? Is it customary for the families to ring each other up and visit each other before marriage?
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Huh. As in here, people follow customs
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How much did you interact with your in-laws before marriage? Was it expected that you'd call them up and say hello? Or did you keep your mouth shut? Is it customary for the families to ring each other up and visit each other before marriage?
Hubby and I only had a few weeks in between when we met and when we had our nikkah. During those few weeks his family and I were in communication because they obviously wanted to get to know me. His family was also in touch with mine (my mom needed reassurance that his family was happy as it was love marriage!) and his whole family made us feel completely comfortable and at ease. Now after our nikkah, his siblings and I are super close as I am with his parents. They are lovely people MashAllah and our wedding is next week :D
However, I have seem scenarios where girls have been in touch with their in laws during the engagement phase and often it leads to arguments etc so I think it really depends on the people involved.
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I kept in touch with my in laws right from the time hubby and I told our families. MIL would invite me to family functions and meals at their place. My parents wanted to get to know their future son in law too, so he was invited everywhere as well. My in laws are very nice people thankfully, and there were no hang ups. My parents and in laws also started meeting each other more, even when we were not around. It did much more to put their minds at ease than what husband and I could have achieved by just telling them about the other family.
It worked out in my case, but really it depends on the people involved and how firm your marriage plans are (As in, I wouldn't interact too much with a family till I was sure of the marriage happening). Personally I don't see the benefit of staying completely aloof and unwilling to interact. If you are going to live with your inlaws, this pre-marriage period is relatively stress free and you can start to form a good relationship with your new family. Even if your in laws are difficult to deal with, at least you will get to know this in advance.
As for talking on the phone - start with calling to wish on birthdays or special occasions. Hard to go wrong with that.
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A lot. Not much was expected from me, I did it because it made someone else happy hence also me 
I had a very unusual engagement phase tho.
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Hubby and I only had a few weeks in between when we met and when we had our nikkah. During those few weeks his family and I were in communication because they obviously wanted to get to know me. His family was also in touch with mine (my mom needed reassurance that his family was happy as it was love marriage!) and his whole family made us feel completely comfortable and at ease. Now after our nikkah, his siblings and I are super close as I am with his parents. They are lovely people MashAllah and our wedding is next week :D
However, I have seem scenarios where girls have been in touch with their in laws during the engagement phase and often it leads to arguments etc so I think it really depends on the people involved.
Hang on, correct me if I'm wrong, but you and your husband had known each other only for a few weeks and it's a love marriage?
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You are extending your family...so in order to bond, you'll have to invest time, energy and effort. But i am not talking of the girl/boy getting married here, it has to be their family too and more so. Of course no overdoing! Balance is the key.
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Hang on, correct me if I'm wrong, but you and your husband had known each other only for a few weeks and it's a love marriage?
Loveee at first sight i guess
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Loveee at first sight i guess
Like, literally I guess.