DO you think it’s a good idea to have the soon to be bride and groom sit with a religious counselor and learn about their rights before they tie the knot?
This question stems from the fact that a lot of us are unaware of many details involving marriage from the Islamic standpoint so learning about them could educate us and help us respect each other’s position.
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yes - it's mandatory in many states.
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The problem is not with the counseling, the problem is with the counselor. You dont want to pick one that is too ocnservative and start hiding woman's right from her, or too liberal to pass wrong information.
But yes, I think its a great idea for both people to sit through a counseling session.
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Great idea.
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zareenkhan ka future dulha maraa gaya bechara
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I know one sheikh here who does the fiqh of love course for almaghrib and he said that before he agrees to do any nikkah he asks the couple to take the fiqh of love course -and they have to pass the exam :)
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^^ nice.
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I think that is an great idea! I would love to start off my marriage that way. Though I totally agree wiht TLK about the Imam you speak to, i mean there is tons of Imam's who will give no value to woman and then some who will say it's the woman's way or no way.
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zareenkhan ka future dulha maraa gaya bechara
kyun?
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I think it's a great idea, but then I also think people should learn their rights and responsibilities before they even think about marriage.
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It's a good idea as long as the counsellor is impartial and honest.
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yes i think so, it wod be great for the couple.
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DO you think it's a good idea to have the soon to be bride and groom sit with a religious counselor and learn about their rights before they tie the knot?
This question stems from the fact that a lot of us are unaware of many details involving marriage from the Islamic standpoint so learning about them could educate us and help us respect each other's position.
I think its a great idea...not only to learn about the rights but responsibilities as well. I wish more people did that.
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When so many people think this way, why don't more masjids implement this as a community service? I'm thinking of suggesting it at ours....
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^ do it! ... great idea
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When so many people think this way, why don't more masjids implement this as a community service? I'm thinking of suggesting it at ours....
Yes you should suggest it. Maybe encourage 'role play' as well, like for example how to discuss things like division of labour, overspending etc in a diplomatic respectful way.
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One of my work colleagues had to attend pre marriage sessions at her church as apparently they wouldn't have been allowed to get married in that particular church without it.
It was a group session though. All the couples would gather one a week for a number of weeks leading up to the marriage.
Sounds like a good idea, but knowing my family, the next door neighbours chachi's daughter in law's husband's sister's dog would want to attend too.
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no
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depends on how much the couple is influenced by religion...
this class/counselling will not be for me. I would just end up asking too many questions about why and frustrate everyone or get frustrated when ppl say "thts just the way it is"
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When so many people think this way, why don't more masjids implement this as a community service? I'm thinking of suggesting it at ours....
I think I will do the same and keep this in mind for the future.