Pre-Marital Counseling

[PatriotX]

@Niksik

Lusi, you know that isn’t a bad idea, but here’s my take…marriage isn’t as hard as people are making it out to be. I think people are thinking way too much these days. Too many what ifs and buts and me and I and myself, my rights and freaking lehenga and my tikka and my space and my my my. Sorry but our society is messed up these days. Hence the fears and failures.

@sheyn

***If people would go into a marriage with all the cards on the table and actually think this is for keeps , there would be no need for any counselling.

Even though the concept of counselling per se helps a lot of couples , in my opinion involving a thrid party in a marriage is never good…You need to learn to figure things out as a couple without outside influence. ***

excellent points.

@Mamaof3

In the christian religions, they require a couple to complete a pre-marriage session that is run by married church members in good standing. They have a set routine to follow, subjects to be discussed etc. I think if Muslims began a program like this, it could be helpful. Ive read too many times about after-marriage surprises, some of them really basic things like where to live, whether wife will be “allowed” to work, how many kids etc - all things that should be discussed prior to signing on the dotted line!

sorry to point out the obvious, but considering the sky-rocketing divorce rate in the west, it does not seem to be helping at all.