Practicalities of Love

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Re: Practicalities of Love

@KiteRunner

I’m not ‘anti-love’, I mean to each their own, but I’m not a believer. I’ve seen many ‘in love’ couples get married and their weddings literally go to shambles. I’ve only seen a few completely successful marriages, a mix of arranged and love, and the couples have just learnt to compromise and the delicate balance of give and take, none of them profess their undying love to each other or sing songs around trees. You have to be realistic about life, to marry because you’re compatible and not because of a rush of endorphins.
Plus, if love is so sacred and is such an unbreakable bond, how do you explain people falling in love with numerous people in their lives?
Just my opinion so don’t shoot me! If love turns out to be true I’ll be the happiest person here

You are right that you have to be compatible and shouldn’t make decisions because of an endorphin rush. That is very stupid. You are also right that it is in give and take that marriage survive. But you’re mistaken in thinking that love marriages aren’t like that. People who aren’t like that have love with a lack of awareness of the necessity of all these things you mentioned. You can be in love and BE reasonable. There is nothing better than that.

Professing undying love and all that bollywood stuff only happens in the honeymoon period [if at all?].

Also, love is sacred, but not necessarily the romantic kind. The notion of love is sacred. Its “sacredness” does not disappear because you care about more than one person very deeply (some clearly more than others). Also, as we grow, our capacity and understanding of what it means to love someone also grows.