I am now potty training my 3 and half year old daughter again for the 3rd time…grrrr.. ok well first 2 times over the last year haven’t worked. she just doesn’t listen nor has an interest. she is a masshallah very able and inteliigent child, I am cofnsued as to why she isn’t interested at all today is day 2 of third attempt and because of last 2 times I am kinda losing patience…I know I shouldn’t. but I am.so what else can I do. she told me she wants to go byt did it there and then. I now have put on those pull-up pants because I KNOW SHE WILL dirty her clothes she just isn’t listening and keeps saying how she will wear nappies until shes 16…lol. help…and I have tried everythingggggggg. last 2 times each timei tried for around a month to 2 months didn’t work. she didn’t even say after she had done potty or peepee in her clothes. she just let us smell her and change her.
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My second one gave me a hard time. She is still not completely trained but we are getting there.
Pull-ups are not going to help. They are diapers, only easier to take off so the child, even though knows she is in pull-ups, knows that she can pee, poo in it. For us, pull-ups are only used when we go out.
There are going to be many dirty clothes in the beginning but do not give up just because you have lot of laundry. I have cleaned many poop accidents. It gets frustrating but try to be calm.
I am sure you already know, but do not wait for her to tell you. Take her every 20 or 30 minutes initially.
I started with 30 minutes with my daughter but that was too long for her, she did not have control in the start. So I changed to 20 mins and 10 mins after she had something to drink. Sometimes I got lazy and just when I was thinking, I will take her to the potty once I finish this work, she would have an accident. So in effect I increased my own work by waiting for a couple of minutes.
If my daughter was playing with her brother, my son would tell me that she has had an accident because she did not want to be disturbed in her play. So I think it happens with the kids that they sometimes not tell.
My son on the other hand was easy to train and always told me if he had an accident.
Look for the cues. My daughter initially would hide somewhere when she needed to poop. Now she gets very restless when she has to go.
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very good advice above…
take the kid to the bathroom every 20-30 minutes even if she says that she doesn’t need to go.
the easiest children to potty train are those whose habits are well-known and understood by the parent doing the training.
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Maybe train both girl together, take both of them to the bathroom every 20 minutes.
Def. Look for the cues for #1 and #2.
My little one gives a very distinct facial expression when he has to poop, we drop everything (dinner, TV, cooking, etc) and take him to bathroom. Actually he runs to the bathroom with us.
The toddler teacher I work with is strongly against pull ups. She always tells parents to send kids in panties.
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I hope it does not end up on fan.
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The way to do it is don’t go out for a few days/ weeks. Take off the diaper / pull ups and put her in old pAnts that she has grown out off so you can throw them away if need be. Make her drink a lot of water, juice etc and sit her on the toilet seat every 15-20 minutes. Ask her too if she needs to go. She will definitely fight it but try to rears her if she goes and also leave the tap running in the bathroom when she is there. It took 3 weeks of fruartrTion and accidents for my son and a bit longer for my daughter but they were trained finAlly. They screamed and cried when they we’d taken to the bathroom but it wS all worth it. And oh yes, don’t forget to take her when she wakes up.
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I.have tried withoit nappies or pull ups.for 6 weeks
She just sat there.even when she had done poo in her trousers he still sat there comfy as Larry.
I am.using 2 packs of pull ups I had lieong around.
Just today ( day 3) she had done poo ans didn’t even tell.me
It makes no difference whether she has no pull ups or not
And I can’t leave her wearing nothing at all as we have a lot of male servants and live with in laws and Dewar.
Any other ideas.akot of people tell me it.takes a month or 2. I’m doubting that with my one.
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ok this is not a tried & tested thing but I am of the opinion that you stop her potty training for a few days , give it a break because all this is a cycle which is going on and leading you & her no where. Seems like she has gotten used to being not potty trained and you cleaning her up every-time. She is just unaffected by it.
someone suggested above that you start training both of your kids together I like this idea !
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What should.my.attitude and what should I say to her to.lake her do it.
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ignore the accidents, keep taking her, don’t ask her take her…no negative stuff when she has accidents, sit her on the toilet for a few mins she will do it and get the hang of it.
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So I should take her every 20-30 mins and how long will it take for her to tell.me herself.?
And should I use.pull ups or knickers or anything? Because from why I have seen it doesn’t make a.dfferece.to her.
Thanks guys
at my.wits end all other mothers even my cousin has a.disabled daughter who at 3 managed to get potty training done.I feel like.a.crap mother.
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Just use panties/underwear. Take her every 15-20 mins. Try to set a schedule for her #2 time. Take her for poop before the time she poops normally.
Just stay calm and don’t give up.
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You need to stop going back and forth. You’re confusing her. What made you retry again? Was there a sign that she’s ready?
At this point, I’d just get rid of everything, roll up all the rugs around the house, get ready to do a lot of cleaning, and focus all your attention on training her.
Stop comparing your child to others and upsetting yourself. If you’ve decided it’s time, it’s time. Stop going back and forth and just do it. Diapers/PullUps are done.
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Also, try not to be negative when she has an accident. Clean it up and help her change. Just remind her to go in the toilet.
Do lots of positive reinforcement when she does go – and offer something small like stickers or something.
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I have been doing it with my daughter for 2 months now. We started in winter vacation and I was sure we will be done in a month and we are still doing it !!! She still does not tell me when she needs to pee but does it when she needs to poop.
I was getting very frustrated initially, mad at her for wetting in her panties, tired of all the laundry and all the cleaning but now I stay calm, just reinforce when we have an accident that big girls go on the potty. I also bought her favorite panties (I let her choose in the store) and at each accident I tell her we do not want to wet our special panties.
I know I cannot stop, now that she tells me at least for one thing. That is just going to confuse her.
When you sit her on toilet, let her sit for a couple of minutes and tell her to do it/push or whatever. If she does not do anything, pick her up, dont leave her on the toilet for a long time. Take her again in 5 or 10 minutes. You may get an accident in those 10 minutes but that is just part of it.
Try this. When you take her to the bathroom, tell her “mommy is going to the bathroom and then you gotta go after mommy”. May be she would like to copy you.
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Yes, take her every 20- 30 minutes, my kids did not tell me either when they went in their pants. But obviously I would discover it and tell her that she shouldn’t do it, eventually she/ he got the hang of it. As I suggested above, keep her in old pants and old underwear, it keeps the floors/ carpets neat if you know what I mean. You need to take her every 15-20 minutes, that’s the most important part.
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OK am taking her every 20 mins
So far today no accidents yet
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^ Keep it up! Good luck!
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Has she used the potty yet?
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I first tried when my daughter was 2, I used pull ups which she just thought was a nappy, so it didn’t work.
Then when she was 2 years 9 months n I wanted to enrol her in playgroup, I had to train her. I went n bought her underwear with her favourite characters on them. I used an actual potty as I was heavily pregnant at time. I made her sit on it every 15 mins for first couple of hours as she didn’t go everytime. Then every half hour for the rest of the day. Only had 1 little accident, as she started to get wet she stopped, so wasn’t more if a trickle, she obviously didn’t like idea of getting wet.
She did it in 2 days. I’m worried what it’s gonna b like with my wee boy as boys r supposed to be harder to train.
I would give it a break for a few months n then try again, don’t use pull ups n don’t give up n keep at. If u give up u will give her mixed signals that its ok for her to keep using a nappy. As u said she is quite clever talk to her n tell her nappies r for babies, use a reward chart with stickers everytime she goes. Good luck.