Someone i know, in Pakistan, delivered her third baby two months ago. She is now undergoing a very sensitive phase , I believe its postpartum depression.. she’s crying all the time, feeling very low, even ditched her baby and stopped breastfeeding, mood swings, hallucinating..
some days are more terrible then others ..
other then going to the doctor and asking for anti depressants .. which she will do anyways .. I want to find out if anyone here has undergone this phase and how they recovered through it?
Does anyone know any natural remedies as well to come out of PPD? specially keen to hear from ladies in Pakistan .. what sort of treatment options were you given ?
I dont know if it was PPD but I used to hold my first one in my lap and cry all night .. I used to have all scary thoughts what if something happens to him ? what if he chokes ? what if Allah takes him back anytime now ? and so on it took me about 2 months to go off this phase of possessiveness and weeping. I used to wake up so many times to check if he was breathing
I am in US so not sure what people do in Pakistan. However, whenever I was down, my husband supported me to the best of his abilities. Many times I cried in front of him for various reasons, he consoled me. It was very helpful. Just getting it all out and knowing that your partner supports you is very helpful. Once my mother left, I would put my son (1 month and 14 days old probably) in the stroller and walk to the nearby grocery store to get fresh vegetables for dinner. Again, change of environment, fresh air, interacting with other people was also helpful.
honey, I am still waiting for the big day :hinna: .. yeah I was truly terrified of the hols because not many doctors are on duty and hence alot of negligence on the part of the midwives ! but Alhumdullillah that dreaded time period is gone and Britain is back to its working spirit
I am in the US. I had serious PPD after my 3rd child. I felt I had nothing to live for, even though I had the cutest and most adorable baby in the world. Such helplessness, hopelessness, and despair. I realised what i was going through and because I knew something was not quite right is what I believe helped me. I divulged this to my DH. He immediately helped me in changing my environment. By this, we went out, he took chores and responsibilities off my hand. Took the baby for very long walks, I definitely interacted more with other people, namely strangers. I started to nurse in the living room, being around my other children and watching them go about their normalcy , helped me feel more social and not confined to the bedroom. At one point i did consider anti depressants etc, but decided against taking them. It took me at least 5 months to finally feel better. It was a very dark period of my life. Alhamdulillah, my 3rd child is now almost 17 yrs old.
Thanks so much for sharing ladies.. problem is this lady is not very stable financially. So already struggling and now she’s totally given up. doctors visits are already proving to be extremely expensive .. environment change , maximum effort she can do for the moment is move in with parents rather then living with inlaws .. she did that about 2 months back.. but the problem isnt getting any better..
I have read up on the internet about this and found out that oestrogen or progestrone, which ever hormone goes low can cause severe PPD .. we cant do much about progestrone but there are natural foods that can balance out oestrogen levels in the body .. has anyone here any knowledge of that? please share with me the remedies , coz its already established what her issue is and what general external options she has ..
I am keen to find out potential remedies that she can do on top of visiting a doctor, needless to say in Pakistan, PPD is still not very highly recognized and I cannot believe the pathetic behaviour of people in Pakistan and the kind of things they say to someone who is undergoing depression !
poor thing, it is def PDP, in some cases I have heard people getting better on their own within 2-3 months, the longest I heard was of one of my mamis, she didnt feel well for over 6 months, and the child used to be with with my mamoon’s friends(due to lack of family in US) she had to be admitted to the hospital few times it was so bad, i some cases medical intervention is needed. Allah madad kare, ameen.
just for record, someone i spoke with a couple minutes back, suggested increasing Omega 3 or fish capsules , Vitamin B capsules and Flaxseed in her diet .. that might help arrest the problem at hand .. I am going to recommend these to her ..
can i ask wat genders are her baby? itsverrrrryyyy common in pakistan for women to get depresed when they have 2 girls already n then have a 3rd girl. im surprised at how rife this is here.
She must take a multivitamins with evening primrose oil. Just yesterday I was discussing depression stress anxiety with my OB, she has highly recommended yoga instead if going the anti depressant way.
Your friend needs to adopt a holistic treatment approach that combines good diet exercise counselling, possibly medicines to feel better. And of course prayers.
well allhumdullah I never went to extreme case of depression, but whenever I used to feel low I used to Skype with my parents,honestly I was going through tough time no one was there n some bad bad issues but allhumdullah I really control myself n fought well wth my inner self because I knew I got this baby after waiting for so long n she is precious , this thing just increased my confidence n kept me calm, after 2 months I went to my parents for a month then after tht huby was always there for me for support purpose.
I think most important thing is support from your huby, family friends everyone around you, tht they are there for you
I went through PPD, lasted for about 2 months. I would start crying for no reason at all .. was always down and felt like crap. Then one day, the day my inlaws left, I just felt happy again
that!
you will never feel comfortable with your inlaws…no matter how much close n friendly they are…
IMO you just cant say to your MIL that hold my baby i want to sleep/lay down for a while…or bring a glass of water for me…or feed my baby with bottle i want to take rest…
you can feel much relaxed and say all these things easily to your own mom n sisters…and they will not create an issue out of this:D
Bad In laws always contribute towards postnatal depression by giving their unsolicited advice, telling there’s no such thing exist like a post natal depression even university going nands will be telling you, its a crap woman say when they don’t want to do house chores and making bahanas and doing dramas to do rest. lol…
Some In laws also make the girl miserable if she refuses or don’t have the energy to cater to In laws needs and to entertain guests.
Some goes to the extent of brainwashing their sons that every woman gives birth, why isn’t your wife doing anything?( kaam waghera etc)
it took me about 2 months to go off this phase of possessiveness and weeping. I used to wake up so many times to check if he was breathing 
