Im just curious about what you guys think about posting pics…in every thread here, people post pics of shaadis, mehndis, valimas, etc. Inevitably, someone says something like “hey, thats my cousin/friend/cousin’s friend! I dont think she’d appreciate her pic being posted!”
I mean, isnt it a little too late after its already been posted? So many people visit GupShup and most of them probably dont even post so imagine the number of people who see the picture or save the picture the minute its posted.
People arent supposed to post "private" pictures. Usually the pictures that people posted here are either their own pictures or pictures they have found on the internet -which are already "out there" for everyone to see. People shouldnt be posting private pictures and in any case where objections are made to private pictures they always removed by the mods!
yea, once it's out there, people shouldn't complain or do the whole 'blah blah she wouldn't like her picture being here thing', in my opinion.
it's up to the couple to make sure that they keep their pictures truly private if they don't want them ending up their internet, which to be honest would be pretty hard, unless you tell ALL your guests not to put up any of the pictures they take on the internet too.
and having your pictures on facebook, even if you have a closed profile only viewable to friends, is not going to guarantee them staying private if you have 200+ people on your list, a lot of whom just acquaintances.
if it really bothers them that much they should ban cameras other than the official photog from the event and not let them get anywhere near the internet or other people's pc's.
not to start another debate or anything but what is wrong with having your picture online? there are hundred and thousand of guests on ur wedding, they all get to see you, having your picture online and some strangers seeing those picture is similar to all your guests seeing you. i mean don't put your whole bridal shoot online but few pictures of a bride and groom sitting on a stage with some guest is not too bad.
I think there's something called basic manners :)
When I am posting my pictures on facebook which is viewable only to friends on my list, it doesn't mean the pictures are out there for people to pass around or share just because they are on the internet. Saving from someone's facebook, private photo albums, and other private sites which you know are only restricted to friends, and then sharing it on public forums is WRONG unless you have their permission to do so. People need to grow up really, posting pictures on your personal networking sites is not an open invitation for you to pass them around so any tom dick or harry can view them. If it's on an open photosharing site such as Picasa or Photobucket then okay, obviously they are not restricted.
A few people here cut off faces and post pictures OF their friends from facebook.. and no, not sharing their faces doesn't make it right for you to share their outfits or bodies with the rest of the world. That's one reason I hate sharing my pictures with many people I know now because who knows, next thing I know I will hear about my pictures being forwarded through emails and being posted on public forums. It's really hard to trust such people when you know what they do with others' private photos.
And puhhleeazzee, pictures don't just get posted here, they get shredded to pieces. Recent example was prime minister's bechari daughter in law who was being ridiculed here when her wedding pictures were posted. I couldn't believe people had the nerve to even talk about someone's chest and what not. Fine, you don't like her dress, her hair, her decor even, atleast keep some shame and limits. Same thing with that couple where the bride (the one with long gorgeous hair in white dress) was posing in a way which was near the groom's legs and some girls started with their extremely perverted comments which were so uncalled for. No wonder why so many girls dont want their pictures here because alot of people here tend to get quite carried away with their comments and personal attacks.
not to start another debate or anything but what is wrong with having your picture online? there are hundred and thousand of guests on ur wedding, they all get to see you, having your picture online and some strangers seeing those picture is similar to all your guests seeing you. i mean don't put your whole bridal shoot online but few pictures of a bride and groom sitting on a stage with some guest is not too bad.
Its their decision. They invited who they wanted to their wedding. If they want to after keep their pictures private and not share with the whole world, then thats their choice to make and we should respect them and respect their right to privacy. Once they are out there publicly on the internet like on flikr or something that isnt password protected, they can no longer control who is looking at them. Plus you dont know how your picture can be abused these days if it falls into the wrong hands, so some people just like to play it safe. Thats why alot of girls will post their pics here on GS and ask no one to quote it and then delete it shortly afterwards
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Saving from someone's facebook, private photo albums, and other private sites which you know are only restricted to friends, and then sharing it on public forums is WRONG unless you have their permission to do so.
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Ya thats what I meant by private pictures. You should only share pictures that are public, that anyone could have found anyways, not pictures that you only found because of a certain access you were given (along with a certain trust). If the picture was found through the later case, then you should only share it if you have the explicit permission of the person in the picture. Also I think it says alot about a person who would be betray the trust of their friend/family member by taking the private pictures this person choose to share with you and instead of respecting their privacy someone decides to post it for the world to see..some friend!
One thing i want to say about GS, it is NOT a safe plce to post pictures. I don't know about the albums here, maybe the blogs, but definitely not the forums. Maybe the wedding slideshows that choozy and shay posted were a better idea b/c u cant click and save or at least u cant get a good quality pic? but definitely not pix....
When i was new here i used to post alot of pictures, maybe it was a safer mahol or i was just naive. But i found out some jerk had posted it on ratedesi...with alot of nasty comments underneath..
A few years back after i got engaged someone here started hounding me that she had gotten my engagement pictures in her in-box, and that mine and his face were pasted on some bodies, doing "weird" things. I still dont know if it was true or not, but, as much as i hate to admit it, thats very well possible...b/c ppl are sick.
Two pictures i had posted in the bridal thread were made into a wedding montage on youtube, i asked her many times to take out my picture and my freinds picture but she ignored me. Again i know it was one of the posters here b/c those were all pictures from the bridal thread.
Facebook at least u can limit and restrict your friend list and who can view your pictures, however there is no way possible to find out who on GS has stolen your picture b/c even unregistered guests can view images here. Even if u say not to quote or save or whatever, u really think the millions of ppl who come on here will honor that request? There is no way of finding out who has saved ur picture or posted it.
I agree with you Shay, putting your pics on Facebook isnt an open invitation to post it on other forums. One thing though is that I think stoppit is right when she says facebook isnt totally just about showing your close friends your pictures. Most of the people I know have over 500 friends on facebook, and its not that they're being careless, but its easy to accumulate a large number of friends on social networking sites like that. You take a class, your classmates add you, you meet new people from college, they add you, family members, childhood friends, now even teachers and older members of families are joining!
The key thing is to be careful on ANY site, not just gupshup. There are ways to be careful on facebook...you can put up albums and specify which people can see them. Also make sure that people can't see your profile and pictures just by joining the same network as you.
Like I said though, not being careful doesnt mean youre giving others an open invite, but we can try to prevent our pics from getting into the wrong hands.
The key thing is to be careful on ANY site, not just gupshup. There are ways to be careful on facebook...you can put up albums and specify which people can see them. Also make sure that people can't see your profile and pictures just by joining the same network as you.
Like I said though, not being careful doesnt mean youre giving others an open invite, but we can try to prevent our pics from getting into the wrong hands.
Exactly. And that's what I do with my pictures because I have different groups of people on different lists.
However, I am talking about my friends who did the same i.e, limited albums to ONLY close friends/family and one of them still shared the pictures elsewhere. Even if you take all the precautions, there are still people who have no problem betraying that trust.
Okay, girls, please be VERY careful about posting your personal pictures here. Just a few hours ago, some of us saw websites that have guppans' wedding pictures on them and public sites. The sad part was that there were pictures of a guppan who's a hijabi and had requested over and over for people to not save or share her picture. It's sad that despite of requests, people still don't hesitate before posting personal pictures like this. If you're comfortable with it then it's a different thing but if you're one of those who does not want their wedding photos to be on some unknown person's website or personal blog then be extremely careful before displaying them here.
There has to be a better way to share...Part of the problem, i think, is that we all talk about each others wedding pictures so much (which is cool n all) that everyone wants to see them, how many ppl have you seen with just one or two posts ask to see the pictures? Its perfectly natural to want to share a happy moment of your life, but you can never trust anyone. and even facebook is not safe.
Yeah exactly, people post them here out of good intention and happily to show others. Who knew there were creeps around here who would post them elsewhere.. oh well, anyone who doesn't want such thing to happen should be very cautious about it from now.
it is indeed very CREEPY that someone out there is compiling pics of us and zooming in out the kaam on our outfits and cropping out our husbands, not only is it creepy it is weird and sad
posting pics with black squares over the bride's head doesnt seem like such a bad idea...nobody needs to see the bride's face to get an idea of what the dress looks like and then pm'ing people pics might be better. if im not wrong, cant people just see these pics with a google search or do you have to be a member of gupshup?
^umm, actually, that is a creepy thing to do. cutting someone's face off to show their dress in which is their body is visible does not make it right for anyone to display others' pictures.
let's be real here, if you KNOW someone is not going to want you to post their pictures, why would you even do it, whether it's with their face or without it? it's understandable that we are all curious to see pictures of different brides and their dresses but this does not need to turn into an obsession, it's just pictures for god's sake.