Post Natal or just being rude?

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Re: Post Natal or just being rude?

@Bint_e_Naeem

Why does it even matter that the Bhabi is supposedly “shunning” anyone. Some day when OP has her own family & kids this niece won’t even matter much. Call it bitter reality or a matter of accepting different relationships as they are & being practical in life.

But that’s how it is. Who has the time to even think of these things & create such egotistical issues about it all. Not referring to you Zainy but talking about people in general especially us Desis.

Why can’t we just accept the fact that ultimately at some point in life family means your own kids & spouse. As long as her brother is happy with the family he has created with his own wife & baby who cares about why he isn’t stepping up his game & confronting wife about disrespecting in laws. Why talk to him & create unnecessary tension or drama in his life when as a first time father he is probably dealing with a lot of changes. Changes that can be stressful even for men after having a child.

I agree with you on the first point, regarding the neice not mattering much once OP has her own kid. But the part regarding “family” is only wife and baby…and who cares about the in-laws…the first thing is that they are not HIS in-laws, they are his parents and sister. He should care and make sure his wife and children care about HIS parents and sibling and their feelings. I understand that unneecessary drama should be avioded, but “disrespecting the parents,” is NOT unnecessary.

Just like you a wife wouldn’t want her parents to be disrecepted, she should respect his parents as well. It is his responsiblity to make sure his parents are not disrecptected by ANYONE…let alone his own wife.