Re: Post Natal or just being rude?
Well, he’s not entirely blind because I do recall you saying that your brother noticed his wife’s attitude when you and and your mom went to visit bhabi at her mother’s home. But it’s tough for him to be stuck between his family and wife and risking the resentment of one party to please the other. Even if your bhabi is depressed, I hope she’s not over-playing that card with your brother as an excuse to justify the current tension and to prevent him from discussing the issue with her. How long has it been now?
If talking to your brother will result in his wife accusing you of brainwashing him, would it help if your parents had a discussion in front of both your brother and bhabi? Maybe your mom can say that the reason she didn’t talk to your brother privately was because she didn’t want to be accused of complaining/brainwashing, etc. Let your brother witness and hear from both his mom and wife…so that later on there’s no manipulating of words and “he said/she said.” How would this approach go? Or maybe your mom can simply say in front of both of them that I would like see all of you more often especially the baby as I’ve only seen her twice and Zainy hasn’t seen her once…and if you BOTH don’t want us to interact with us, let us know. By using the word BOTH, she won’t be singling out the bhabi and is putting accountability on both of them. How would this approach go?
i suspect thats what she wants, wants us to flip or have chat, and it ends badly .. not going to let that happen - my bro shouldnt let it happen either.