Just a thought: Its just the universal life cycle, where every upcoming generation has to establish themselves. Just think about it, our parents have moved out of their parents homes, atleast thats how it works here in the states. If the only thing right thing to do is stay with your parents, then what happens to the families with just daughters? Last time i checked, those parents deserve an equal chance for care and respect like any parents who have a son.
You cannot just implay that the only right thing do is move in with your parents(guys side), and if you don't your doing somehting wrong. Every household is unique! For example, in my situation, i don't want to live with his parents, but instead mine(or close to mine), becuase he has a younger brother, who even if he goes out of the country to study, but i know he'll be back for his parents. I, on the other hand, am the last of two daughters. Now after me there will be no one to take care of my parents. And since my parents are very independent, they would want us to get our own house, but in the same city as them.
And then one day i want them to shift back to Pakistan, with us so we can be both with his parents and mine!
"My own idea is, parents provide for your needs, raise you, protect you, educate you and take care of you from your birth to the point where you are able to stand on your own two feet."
^ now about this, it is very true what your saying, and we are all thankfull for that, but you have to make your own life! I mean is it wrong that my life does not surround around my parents? Should it? I don't think so, because you havee to move up, not go back or stay in the same place as your parents! This is does not mean, don't take care of your parents, but its okay to think about yourself too! Look our parents they thought about themselves too. So many parents, including mine, say they came to the states to make a better life, for their childern! And look they don't say they came here to make a better life for their parents!
In every aspect of life, using your common sense is key! There is no cookie cutter for everything problem in life, othewise we would not have problems like this! But you can't just say a girl should not, not wanna move in with the guys parents. I know culturally, girls move in with the guys family, but why? Is there a religious aspect to it, which i don't know about? Why is it soo taboo, for the couple to move in with the girls family. Many times i have seen, mostly in Pk, that the girls parents do everything for her to get married, and what happens after shaadi? They are alone! And a lot of the times, the guys family CAN live without their son, so he can take care of of his inlaws, but what a taboo right? Common sense people, common sense, its not that hard to use it!