You had a wonderful relationship with a person. It lasted a long time. You realised one day that it was going nowhere for whatever reason. You go through the awkward breaking up process. You still retain the highest regard for the person in question during and after the breakup but you just dont feel that you two should be together anymore (read that as you no longer feel like you are in love with the person) .
So you two have done the breakup. You two are apparently doing well. No hate issues sprewing from the unfortunate event and no regrets about the time spent together when it was.
How are you supposed to react though when friends of the person take it upon themselves to splash mud all over you for whatever reasons. And Im not complaining abt them doing it behind my back..hey what I dont know doesnt hurt me. But what if they come upto you and do it at your face? What gives third parties license to believe they have any right to interfere to the extent of abusive insults?
throwing a stone into mud wud splash u with mud as well so there is no point in responding to them.wen a donkey starts braying u just have to wait till it stops and then get on with ur life.its irritating but i belive its the best solution.
Nobody attacks without provocation. I think maybe you should reevaluate what you did that brought on the "mud splashing". In fact, I think everyone should be handed a post-breakup rule book of etiquette. Top would be: consider the feelings of your ex. Second would be: avoid "his" places and if you must frequent, do so with utmost consideration. It is not courteous to parade a current relationship or divulge details that would hurt your ex, especially in an arena where it is really not necessary.
And of course, what are friends for if not standing up and protecting their friends' feelings?
Friends often do things out of protection, which is what I am presuming happened here ... your ex's friends didn't like what you had to say about him and your past relationship with him and said whatever they said to you in his defence. Now, I'm sure they wouldn't have said anything had you not publically made remarks about him in their prescence.
If someone says something negative about a loved one in my prescence, I would certainly defend them. To some people that may be interferring or causing trouble, but if you don't want any blacklash from these people, then the logical thing to do is to refrain from making remarks about someone they care about in their prescence.
If they come ambling along into your business then they have no right. I agree that it is insensitive to talk in front of them, but suppose you havent and they came looking for it?