My brother who isnt in the same city as mine has gotten engaged. Its not really a formal engagement but an official 'haan' by both the families. This brother of mine has been extremely close to me throughout. We both are the youngest of the siblings and have been together throughout even in school and university too.
I've heard many a times that many saas and many nunds play a negative role and take out their possessive feeling in the form of disliking for the fiance/wife of the son. In my case, i really like my brother's fiance but the natural feeling of possessiveness exists. He visits us every 5-6 days. Previously,we went many places together and our talk used to be 'our' talk. Me and my mother have always been the two ladies in his life. But now the feeling of possessiveness is coming up.
I very well know that everyone gets married, this had to happen, she is a very nice lady, its a natural feeling, its just fresh right now, i was used to having his attention, it will be balanced out soon etc. I know all that! but i just wanted to share with some one this feeling that is it okay to be possessive about your sibling. Its not that i will do any kind of harm to anyone in any way - i love my brother and i love his fiance too! But its difficult adjusting to the change that some one else will be sharing the attention that i always got from him.
P.S do not start the usual personal attacking because you need to be in a situation to be able to realize the feeling one gets from it
Thoughts become words, words become actions, actions become character and character bcomes destny.. a paraphrase...
Your feelings may be natural but it can very well manifest itself in unhealthy ways that end up leading to the breaking of a relationship. Check ur feelings, and control them.