a recent line of research in the field of human behavior or psychology,
researchers found that in general in life, we need to have a ratio of 3:1 for positives vs. negatives, in order to exert our will power as we live and manage obstacles in our lives.
in a workable contented marriage, for instance, for each negative occurrence, a given person will need to look at 5 gratitude-positives in the relationship.
and the study was done on work and other aspects of one’s life.
gratitude is a strength of character as well. personal growth does not feel real when one feels and acts like a parasite like many people are sadly. people who have negative moods, depression claims to be the mood they live out their lives with – looking at everything in a bleak and gloomy color. they unfortunately may not know the value of honoring their sense of contentment and inner peace. they are good to take and receive, but it is near impossible for them to give back and have even acknowledge the goodness around them. their resilience is non existent and their patience dormant. what might help people like such who still may want to improve their selves, heal their selves, is a sense of gratitude.
being gracious for one’s parents, siblings, social support system of mentors and close trustworthy friends, neighbors, colleagues, even anyone who knows treating others with respect, one’s ability to work, have an independent and responsible living, carry one’s personal impact on lives of those around them, even simple things such as ability to breathe clean air, use clean running water, have healthy food, safe shelter, comfortable clothes and shoes, ability to work against all kinds of challenges, ability to have a sense of time and prioritizing different demands over one’s resources and so on and so forth.
deeper personal growth is achieved when one is feeling the gratitude for being a person who changed someone for better, for having a quiet moment to reflect on one’s accomplishments and learning from one’s mistakes.
feeling gratitude for having met someone who hurt while that person was given all out open free-home welcome to be a part of one’s life, up until the point that it became clear that that person was not real and did not deserve to be liked, and cared for. but, one’s compassion and a sense of achievement in finding gratitude even in the worst things that happen to us all, makes one feel relatively stronger than someone who would blame destiny or other external factors for every decision that they make. that is a cop out in it self.
gratitude helps face one’s own imperfections. it helps us see the big picture in life. it makes us thank God and be able to develop and remain practical and patient. it makes people become aware of the nature of things, their limitations, extensions, risks, and benefits - beyond their immediate needs and their decisions are an outcome of positive balance rather than negative.
clearly it makes a logical connection with being faithful in God as one acts and feels more like a happy creation, that leverages the positive around the self, in the whole world created by the Creator, that surrounds oneself. gratitude allows one to forgive and to turn away negative energy from oneself.
it does work and it is the best thing that can happen to a believing person.
any thoughts on gratitude and would anyone like to share how it transforms their views and life?
Dushwari