Popular Girls...Desirable Mates?? Part II

The following is copied from Meeting New People Section…

MNI:
Hehehe…by the way..I never called you Jaahil. I called the act of brandishing man a jaahil. Pls. read the sentence again.

O.k…here we go again:

First of all, if your’re not muslim, then there really isn’t an argument here. You’re culture/religion teaches you something different from what Islam teaches me.

“I want to know where you got the idea that women (in proper hijaab) cannot converse with
ghair-mahram men, or joke with them..”

Well…the wives of prophet never interacted with his companions. They only spoke with them about a specific subject and then..that was it. His wives were among the most perfect women in history and they should be emulated just as men try to emulate the prophet’s ways.

“Are men also supposed to be humble and submissive or is it some quality just required of women? Please elaborate with quotes…”

An educated and righteous man is always humble!!

“..men themselves feel very pressured to remind women about their duties as defined and seen by men themselves…”

We’re talking about the righteous men here, not ignorant and arrogant ones. Its a common
misconception among women that men are out there to remind and limit women to certain roles. Though this happens, its not the decorum.

“..I am not putting anything on sexism or chauvinism. All I am saying is, that you are a chauvinist and yes, a sexist..”

I can’t help it if you label my views as sexist or chavanist. Like I said before, men are labeled as such when they try to explain what right and obligations Islam places on both men and women!

“..Well it might be Islamic. But it’s still sexist AND chauvinistic..In fact I do think that parts of Islam go against women”

Pls. don’t label Islam when you’re, firstly, not a muslim and secondly, have no idea about what Islam is all about. I call it stereotyping.

“As I see it, you are putting your own spin on what Islam says about women, and still claiming that this is the only true Islam, and being very very preachy about it..”

Well…as mentioned above, its better to be humble then arrogant. All of my opinions mentioned here are from what I have learned from others and my own research. If anyone can dispute what is written here, I will be glad to hear what they have to say.

“Still, please tell me where it is forbidden for a woman to converse with a ghair-mahram male,provided she is in hijab”

Since preaching doesn’t appeal to you, I will try to be very concise here by saying that it doesn;t have to be written in quran to be followed upon. If it was practiced by the prohet, his companions or his wives, then its almost as good as quran.

msaqibj Bhai:

Gotcha!!!

welcome to the forum.

if it is forbidden for a woman to converse with a ghair-mahram male, even if she is in hijab,
this statment should also be written as,
it is forbidden for a man to converse with a ghair-mehram female, even if she is in hijab!

but males have, like always tried to dominate and take over, and havent even refrained from changing islam and koran.

who says koran does not give equal rights to women? molvis dont, koran does!
thus molvis are sexist and chauvenistic, and koran isnt! who says women are not given equal rights? women are not only given equal rights, infact they are sometimes given even more rights than men. thats what i believe in as an ahmadi.

i was just reading this verse a few hours ago, it might be of interest.. well here it goes:

" There is no fault in you about the proposal which you offer to women, or hide it in your hearts; god knows that you will be mindful of them."
(-verse 236, chapter 2, the cow)

also note that the purdah is not only for women but equally for men.

" and tell the believers (males) that they cast down their eyes and hide their private parts. that is purer for them. god is aware of what they do.
and tell the female believers that they too, should cast down their eyes, and hide their private parts, and reveal not their adornment save such as is outwards..."
(-verse 31 32, chapter 24, light)

jewels of insignificance:

thank you for that input...i've trying to get the same point across for the past two days. lets see how your words fair! :)

jewels of insignificance:

thank you for that input...i've been trying to get the same point across for the past two days. lets see how your words fair! :)

jewels of insignificance,
Points very well made.

Purple88

Assalamu Alaikum...

I guess I had missed the first part of this whole debate. Darn!

I dont know who Admin is replying to, but I sure do know that whatever that person said, is not what Islam teaches, rather (as put by jewel) this is the teachings of the new maulvis and their gangs.

Like Jewel said, Islam gives more right to women then to man.
1)Women dont have to go for Hajj if their Mahram is not alive/capable.
2)Women dont have to go out and work.
3)Women dont have to cook & clean.
4)The heaven is under the feet of the mother.
5)When in menses, their prayers are forgiven.
6)If a woman goes out and works, she does not have to give a single penny of it to her husband. He has to provide for the whole house and put food on the table.
7)and many many more points. I think this should be sufficient here.

Admin and Jewel have done a great job explaining here so I dont think that i need to elaborate more. But I would like to get a debate with the author of that article which has satrted this whole thing.
Thanks,
wa'salaam.
HomiD

HomiD:

Then pls. see "Popular Girls...... - Desirable mates ????" thread in the Meeting New People Forum!

it is very nice of everyone to appreciate what i wrote.

as a next step i will , as soon as i get some time, try to explain the meaning of when they say, "a women is created from a man's rib" , and how are women desired to be treated by men, according to it.

it would be a completely new meaning , and contrary to what you might have read, and will certainly be far more believable, logical, ethical, and islamic.


So be on watch for a day when heaven shall bring a manifest smoke
covering the people; this is a painful chastisement. 'O our lord remove thou from us, the chastisement; we are believers.' How should they have the reminder? seeing a clear Messenger has already come to them, then they turned away from him, and said,' A man, tutored, possessed!"
( the koran, verse 11-14, chapter 44, Smoke, the nuclear explosion.)