Anyone has ever attended a real life wedding of any less fortunate girls? A friend of mine is getting the bride’s dress for her the wedding of her housemaid’s daughter, and she asked me for a suggestion, and I have NO idea!
Would a lehnga or a maxi/frock/gown look inappropriate? Should she just get her a heavy shalwar kameez? I was thinking of something that she would be able to wear again too..but it should look bridal too. Suggestions anyone?
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I would go for a heavy frock, those can be worn again to dawats, and when attending other events. Ask her what she would like, maybe she has a different dream after all it is a gift...
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I agree. I'd ask her what kind of outfit she wants.
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I helped out recently, got a long frock with a chooridar made. Dupatta wasn't too heavy so added jamawar pattis to liven it. Everything was made according to brides wishes.
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Thank you for the suggestions everyone. I heard of this program on one of the channels where they marry off poor girls, anyone knows what the program is called and on which channel?
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Haan qabool hai, on atv I think.
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^ A-Plus Entertainment - YouTube There’s some episodes on their YT channel.
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Seeing as its a gift, I would ask the girl and not make a big deal about 'helping out'.
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Ask the maid's daughter what she'd like to wear. Lengha, frock pajama, or shalwar kameez are fine.
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Personally I find the title of this thread quite degrading.
Perhaps it's worth chatting to the bride to be. The last thing she needs is to wear an expensive suit if everything else is going to be along the basics lines.
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I have been to wedding where the budget was not very much. If she is okay with it, make her something that fits in with her surroundings. It would probably be a wedding held in a simple tent in a haveli or blocking off a street in Pakistan (i'm assuming the poor girl is in Pakistan). A heavy shalwar kameez suits here. Anything too modern and unfortunately people at the wedding will probably mock her.
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I have been to wedding where the budget was not very much. If she is okay with it, make her something that fits in with her surroundings. It would probably be a wedding held in a simple tent in a haveli or blocking off a street in Pakistan (i'm assuming the poor girl is in Pakistan). A heavy shalwar kameez suits here. Anything too modern and unfortunately people at the wedding will probably mock her.
Yeah this was exactly what I was thinking. It's kinda hard to talk to the girl as the maid din't agree to bring her daughter in. I actually wanted to take her along, So we had to decide by ourself.
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Personally I find the title of this thread quite degrading.
Perhaps it's worth chatting to the bride to be. The last thing she needs is to wear an expensive suit if everything else is going to be along the basics lines.
Agreed with the second part, and that's why I needed suggestions.
As for the title, I just couldn't think of anything else. Maybe you took it as in "bad weddings" but I just meant it as "needy". And for the first time I was struck with the fact that I had never imagined how poor people organize their weddings and what the general atmosphere is.
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Seeing as its a gift, I would ask the girl and not make a big deal about 'helping out'.
Errmm...did I even mention about helping out or making a big deal out of it? As I mentioned,it was not possible to talk to the daughter.
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Thank you raania and uzzybuzzy :)
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Agreed with the second part, and that's why I needed suggestions. As for the title, I just couldn't think of anything else. Maybe you took it as in "bad weddings" but I just meant it as "needy". And for the first time I was struck with the fact that I had never imagined how poor people organize their weddings and what the general atmosphere is.
I didn't take it as bad weddings. I took it as the fact as you pointed out you are unaware of a LARGE percentage of Pakistan are unable to provide food for everyday liking let alone a wedding. I just find that shocking. We are surrounded by Media (I'm in the UK) and the amount of NGO's that grace our TV's highlight the issues so much I didn't quite understand how you were so out of touch.
Nothing personal; I would react the same if anyone in my own social circle said the same.
Hopefully the clothes you pick can be reused. A friend of mine often reuses dupattas and kameezes. She updates the shalwars with plain colour ones which are up to date fashion wise. Dupattas are often teamed up with plain suits. Perhaps if the suit is v.fancy kaam wise you can add a plain suit for her to use with the dupatta? Just a thought.
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I've been to tent-in-the-street weddings a few times when I was younger (although this wouldn't have been for anyone that's a house-maid themselves). And I think every single one of them, the girl still wore a lehenga.
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I didn't take it as bad weddings. I took it as the fact as you pointed out you are unaware of a LARGE percentage of Pakistan are unable to provide food for everyday liking let alone a wedding. I just find that shocking. We are surrounded by Media (I'm in the UK) and the amount of NGO's that grace our TV's highlight the issues so much I didn't quite understand how you were so out of touch.
Nothing personal; I would react the same if anyone in my own social circle said the same.
Hopefully the clothes you pick can be reused. A friend of mine often reuses dupattas and kameezes. She updates the shalwars with plain colour ones which are up to date fashion wise. Dupattas are often teamed up with plain suits. Perhaps if the suit is v.fancy kaam wise you can add a plain suit for her to use with the dupatta? Just a thought.
We dont have a TV and I dont watch news. I'm not so out of touch that I dont know such people exist ofcourse I know there are people who are unable to provide food for everyday, but those people marry and when they do HOW do they do it, that's what I am unaware of.
got her a dress with some heavy work on it, the dress itself had a shalwar piece with it but I got a contrasting jamawar to make lehnga and to put around the dupatta which is as light as almost nothing. I gave the shalwar piece unstitched to her, she can make a shalwar out of it and wear it for a less formal look, and getting the rest of the dress stitched. Yes I hope she can re-use it. I din't want to get her something so hi-fi that it was out of place from everything else and impossible for her to wear again.
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^ Excellent thinking on the extras to 'stretch out' the suit in question. I sometimes wonder why we spend so much on an outfit that will only be worn potentially once unless we D.I.Y with it. Hopefully the bride will get the maximum wear out of it. She might wear it to dawats where she maybe expected to dress up as new bride over and over again.
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Anyone has ever attended **a real life **wedding of any less fortunate girls? A friend of mine is getting the bride's dress for her the wedding of her housemaid's daughter, and she asked me for a suggestion, and I have NO idea! Would a lehnga or a maxi/frock/gown look inappropriate? Should she just get her a heavy shalwar kameez? I was thinking of something that she would be able to wear again too..but it should look bridal too. Suggestions anyone?
NO not a real life wedding, but I have attended pretend sci-fi fantasy weddings for less fortunate girls. It was a blast.