Polygamny in America - a Secret?

So, I’m driving to work - la la la - and guess what comes on the morning radio show?

A case about men who have two different families - and they manage it by having separate identities.

So Mr. Joe Shmoe has a wifey here with a house and a car and kids, etc.

Then Mr. Joe Shmoe also happens to me Mr. Dipstick who has another wifey somewhere else with kids and car, etc.

A private investigation service was talking about the issue, saying that they have come across A LOT of these cases. The guy gave the stat that about 1/20 guys they investigate actually are doing this - how that translates to the national statistic, no one knows.

Most of the time, the speaker said, the wives have no clue about the other family.

So I came home and did some more investigation - on Google of course!

Found the following article, but I can’t find any other information about non-Mormon occurrences. The speaker was saying this is NOT limited to Mormons, and most of the cases he sees are just regular Americans.

**A form of polygamy that some polygamous families use to skirt the law is where the husband marries the first wife, she takes his last name, he divorces her and then marries the next wife who takes his name. [For polyandry relationships, it is the wife that marries and divorces the husbands one after another.] This repeated until he has married and divorced all his wives, except possibly the last one. This way the wives feel justified in calling themselves Mrs. [husband’s last name] and, while legally they’re divorced from the husband, they act still married to him and expect those around them to acknowledge and respect this. The one that stays married to the husband is usually the housewife (the one that doesn’t have a job, tends after the children still at home, cooks the family meals, cleans the house, and other normal housewife duties) of the polygamous family so she and her children can receive the husband’s health insurance coverage. The other wives getting their health insurance coverage from their employers. If all wives work and have health insurance from their employers, all wives may divorce the husband to be equal to each other. However, if all wives work and one of them loses their health insurance, they’ll legally marry the husband again to get covered by his health insurance. And if the husband loses his health insurance, he’ll marry the wife with the best coverage. It is also not uncommon for the husband to be a househusband and thus not work. However, unlike the before-mentioned housewife scenario, the househusband usually doesn’t do duties normally performed by a housewife but instead allocates his time to spend more time with each of his wives. In a “normal” househusband situation, the working wives may work different shifts and/or days to have the husband to themselves during their non-working hours when the other wives are working.

Until 2001, since only one wife is married to the husband at the any time, no law was being broken and so this type of polygamous family unit could be overt about their relationship. In 2001, Tom Green was convicted of polygamy in Utah for having 5 serially monogomous marriages, while living with previous wives. His cohabitation was considered evidence of a common-law marriage to the wives he had divorced while still living with them. Tom Green also married one of his wives when she was 13, when the minimum age for marriage for women was 14.**

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happens ere too, in some cases it can be "kinda legal"

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Multi-nickers basters.

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Are there really laws against people marrying and divorcing and then continue living with their divorced spouse? Or did the guy only got charged for marrying an underage girl?

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MCG, you have way too much free time.

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Heh.

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Frankly, I think the proper punishment for polygamy is forcing the perpetrator to have multiple wives.

I'm curious....Can any of you married or divorce guys answer a simple question for me: ** WHY???? **

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Why what? Do you know how common polyamorous marriages are now?

Its the same thing essentially, except there is a contract involved, so no one can just run off after the fringe benefits wear off.

Also - because guys are pigs.

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lol!! and I thought I’d heard the last of that catch-phrase!

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I can see why strict Mormons will go through Polygamy to prove a religious point, or for someone to enter polygamous relations to enjoy multiple sex partners without the guilt of living in sin, and having large families etc etc.

But the whole premise of juggling careers and having a line of divorced wives living with the former husband to ensure health insurance benefits are uninterrupted, is just too rich. I have heard of similar tales of people perpetrating welfare fraud, where a couple who jointly own a mom-and-pop retail outlet, will periodically fire each other in order to claim jobless benefits. Or how some students in a US university explained to me that they buy stuff (clothes, electronics) etc and then exchange them before the expiry of 30-day period, in order to get the latest models/styles. Frankly, this is just way too much hassle for someone who is doing anything productive in their life.

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^ Yeah right. Its my opinion. I'll voice it when I want.

The point of this thread by the way is not to argue in favor or against polygamous marriages.

I just want to know if this is all some myth I heard on the radio or if its true. Are there really Americans out there practicing polygamy in some strange twisted way, bypassing the law? And are there ladies out there that are OK with it?

It seemed unbelievable to me, but the radio host said that yesterday they had THOUSANDS of calls come into the studio during the day in which people affirmed that there are people they know that do it.

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Faisal, I didn't read that piece as that people are doing it for insurance benefits, but that this is a polygamous marriage in disguise - the fringe benefit being that they are getting the insurance benefits in a particular way. Otherwise, the women that are getting insurance from work don't need to be married to a guy with other wives.

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I hope not. It will be just way too silly to go through so much trouble just to ensure uninterrupted health insurance, from one or the other (ex) wife's employer. The dudes who are going through this must be extremely talented, though, to be able to con and convince educated working-women to adopt them as house-husband and, to add insult to injury, share them with other women. One'd hope that most people who go through this process are out to make a religious/social/moral point and not just to enjoy multiple sex partners without the sin.

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Frankly, I think the appropriate punishment for a polygamist is to force him to have multiple wives.

For any of you married or divorced guys, answer me a simple question: ** WHY???? **

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myvoice, since you posted this twice, hoping for a response, so let me do the honors.

The question should more appropriately be asked to “girls”, not “guys”.

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to date more than one gal at a time is hard in itself...how do these chumps come up with marrying more than one gal...its not humanely possible!!! :):):)