We shouldnt trust people very soon, should we? Sometimes, even time isnt the best judge:vivo:
I have been laughing at how people have behaved. Two girlies have an argument. X creates bad blood between y and n. And is instrumental in breaking their friendship. Now y exposes x to me, tells me what x has been doing behind my back. Why so? Just because she cares for me. I am too simple a girl. I dont judge people and just trust them. And i shouldn’t be in x’s company since she is too dangerous.
Oh come on. Miss.Y. You are playing your cards. All that you have told me about x is truth, ok. But you are exposing her just to take revenge, are not you? Or you would have ‘cared’ for me sooner then that, no?
I am so happy i have never learnt the cheap ways to let others down, betray them, point fingers at them, embarrass them in front of others for their wrongdoings and trap them in snares.
I read somewhere when you make friends your heart is a graveyard for their shortcomings. But what i have seen is, those star plus dramas don’t spring out from nowhere. Back biting, petty jealousies, manipulations is so much a women’s trait that it is disgusting.
I remember mentioning in some thread that i chip well with woman as friends. Just because i feel more comfortable. I was so wrong there. I dont have typical girlish traits and i am never gonna feel so comfortable among them again. Boys’ hormones may take a stroll, but it is nothing compared to what women are capable of. At least some of them.
No one will be good to you like your family will be. Don’t cast off all girls as being bad friends. A rule that I live by is when I see a girl who has NO girl friends and only guy friends then that automatically assures me that there is something wrong with that one girl. It means there are no girls that can stand her and not the other way around.
Guys gossip and back bite too. Plus who are you going to get beauty and fashion advice from? If there are a couple of girls that you know that are bad then they aren’t your friends. Doesn’t mean every girl out there is like that, right?
BUT....sometimes you don't learn about a person's character until much later.....and that's when you warn those that you care about. So, you can't always assume that the friendship is lacking because the person didn't care "sooner."
For example....X and I have an argument. As mad as I am...I decide to let it go and move on from it. Then my good friend Y and I are having issues.....which surprises me....considering that we're pretty tight. I later find out that X is the one who is sneakily trying to jeopardize my relationship with Y. I'm shocked......I can't believe that X was behind this all.......that she could stoop so low. I'm glad that I now know the truth and can save my relationship with Y. In the process....I realize that there are OTHER friends that are also very dear to me and that I don't want to lose (such as You, for example).........so I try to warn you about X..........so that you'll be on your guard....so that you don't have to go through the same stress that Y (my other friend) went through.
^You can't always tell what's in people's hearts. She could just be warning you. There have been times.......where people have warned me about someone (be it among friends, family, or in the workplace)......and I just shrugged off the warning (thinking to myself that since I personally NEVER had a negative experience with the person...I don't need to worry about it)............only to realize later on....how I should have heeded those warnings.
I might warn my family or closest friends about someone....that's your way of being protective. Can't always assume that it's done with ill-intentions such as to expose. And if you think about it............in order to protect someone....You kinda do have to do some "exposing"......otherwise the the other person may not believe you.
^Of course this also depends upon how you expose. If you trash talk the person....it makes you look bad. If you simply state what happened or what you discovered....without cussing up a storm or using malicious language.....you're going to be interpreted differently.
IMO....you can warn people about someone (nothing wrong with that).....but don't force them not to hang out with that person (that control is not right).
BUT....sometimes you don't learn about a person's character until much later.....and that's when you warn those that you care about. So, you can't always assume that the friendship is lacking because the person didn't care "sooner."
For example....X and I have an argument. As mad as I am...I decide to let it go and move on from it. Then my good friend Y and I are having issues.....which surprises me....considering that we're pretty tight. I later find out that X is the one who is sneakily trying to jeopardize my relationship with Y. I'm shocked......I can't believe that X was behind this all.......that she could stoop so low. I'm glad that I now know the truth and can save my relationship with Y. In the process....I realize that there are OTHER friends that are also very dear to me and that I don't want to lose (such as You, for example).........so I try to warn you about X..........so that you'll be on your guard....so that you don't have to go through the same stress that Y (my other friend) went through.
^You can't always tell what's in people's hearts. She could just be warning you. There have been times.......where people have warned me about someone (be it among friends, family, or in the workplace)......and I just shrugged off the warning (thinking to myself that since I personally NEVER had a negative experience with the person...I don't need to worry about it)............only to realize later on....how I should have heeded those warnings.
I might warn my family or closest friends about someone....that's your way of being protective. Can't always assume that it's done with ill-intentions such as to expose. And if you think about it............in order to protect someone....You kinda do have to do some "exposing"......otherwise the the other person may not believe you.
^Of course this also depends upon how you expose. If you trash talk the person....it makes you look bad. If you simply state what happened or what you discovered....without cussing up a storm or using malicious language.....you're going to be interpreted differently.
IMO....you can warn people about someone (nothing wrong with that).....but don't force them not to hang out with that person (that control is not right).
it actually happened like this. X and Y both have been class fellows. X is an old friend. She is a gossip girl and i know this fact. She tells me every secret that another friend shared with her and then states 'u know i cant keep from u'. I often used to say jokingly 'do u tell others things about me, and then say this, dont u'. The thing is she knew a lot about me. My life isnt a public property and i wont want people to discuss private things. Y became my friend only when she started having arguments with x. I never knew her agenda, even though she kept mention she wants to make x jealous by showing her that we are getting closer. I used to laugh it off. Once after an argument she hinted to me that x spoke about something. I invited x and talked to her about it. I kept texting y meanwhile to ask what exactly was the thing she was hinting about. She never replied. In the evening she called and talked about other things. I thought to move on. Now after a vigorous argument with x, she calls me and tells me "this is what i had hinted that day." That sounds wrong, doesnt it?
If there are a couple of girls that you know that are bad then they aren’t your friends. Doesn’t mean every girl out there is like that, right?