Roman - what are eff are you talking about?
Ana, the same eff you just effed.
Thought.
If this topic was brought up 4 times and the person disapears?
a) Could be someone confused and has no one to talk with.
b) Might be afraid of her Uncle.
c) Afraid to tell her parents/family.
d) Could live in a country where honor killings are tolerated…? and be fearful of her life? Possible.
The person who introduced the topic needs an adults advice, such as Ana has given her.
If she is afraid to tell her parents, she needs to talk with someone she is able to trust and who can listen.
or maybe
possibly even
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*Originally posted by Ana: *
And for those of u who said that yeh fuzool thread hai, paedophilia, body violation and rape fuzool nahin hotey. They maim a woman for life.
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I know what I doubt was whether it was some kind of dirty joke
Dirty joke?
I can't read Urdo.
Serious? Could Be.
Not a joking matter in my thinking.
What if it was your daughter?
The subject is NOT a joking matter.What I mean was why didn’t she reply back ? And why has she completely disappeared?
The subject is NOT a joking matter.What I mean was why didn't she reply back ? And why has she completely disappeared?
I'm worried about her and hoping she is safe.
You aren't the only one :)
i still think its not true (i hope its not true)
the person (nadia) may have enuf brain, not to post her real name (if she's really a girl)
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*Originally posted by Faisal: *
Legally speaking, the age of the girl is important.
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August 30, 1983
K, I didn't want to answer Roman's accusation b4, but now in the mood 4 it.
What I wrote may be presumptuous, agreed, but when I read Nadia's post it was a very instinctive reaction. Her writing is real, whether someone has played a dirty joke or not I can't say, but her words have very real meanings. It's not the writing style of a calculating or manipulative mind. In our cultures, or atleast the one I grew up in, it is very common to call everybody uncle or aunty, relation or not, even if they are just a few years older than you, because if they're tall enuf for you to have to crane your neck and look way up to them, they fit the bill. Parents also say "go give uncle these papers, hand aunty that plate, etc..", so it's ingrained and very natural to refer to anyone as that. So pls. don't knock the "uncle" title she chose to give. When we call someone uncle or aunty, we implicitly trust them. That's what this girl did.
Secondly, she posted the thing FOUR times. That means either she is unfamiliar with GS layout and where to post, and desperately needs an answer; or she is just playing. I chose to take the former. She hasn't come back to clarify, I think she is regretting posting here. If so, she's just confused.
It's traumatic for a girl to go thru any type of bodily use. There is no emotion to describe it. The type of men Nadia has described as "uncle" exist, yes they do. They come in your homes, ruin your life and go their jolly way. Sometimes they show up the next morning to apologize to your mom for "stopping in when you and bhaijaan were out, aapa", and even pray four rakaat namaz right in your house, and you have no idea what the eff is going on. If they don't have anyone to ask, to talk to, girls take the blame for things all on themselves and yes some even try to forget it, but it lives in the subconscious and feeds off everything that follows in life, unless they get the right treatment.
Yes, AAA is not far off when she says mebbe Nadia lives in a place where she can get killed for what happened. If word got out, family and society will ruin a girl's life to such an extent that she is as good as dead. That's why girls like Nadia choose the "I love him" path. Their hormones kick in suddenly one day, parents haven't explained anything in lif eto them, they didn't know what is happening, one second you're watching TV and the next you're sprawled on a bed with thoughts going thru like "What is this? Who is this? Am I supposed to do this? Should I say ok? He is my uncle, what if he slaps me if I don't listen, what if he tells my parents; what if I don't let him do this and he tells my parents and they don't let me go back to school and I never go to college and worse what if they make me marry that person I don't want to marry blah blah...", and next thing you know, she's done for, and will try to run away from herself and every living thing on earth for the rest of her life.
Psychiatrists are very good people. They do their job because people need them to do it. Don't take everything in life with a grain of salt, some things need pretty damn serious attention right away.
And for the guys reading this, read Katrine Mansfield. She wrote short stories about the duplicity of women's feelings with which they themselves deceive themselves, their ambivalent emotions, which can sway from south to north pole with the changing minute. That's why men can be so literal sometimes and pick on the one emotion that suits them best at a given point in time. We don't have that luxury. We have to deal with ourselves, by ourselves.
And these girls, they will be in your classes at school, your colleagues at work, but they will never ever show it. That is the worst part, they suffocate themselves and die in themselves silently.
Ana,
Well said. Hoping if she is in trouble she will contact you. Myself, hoping she is ok. I can't believe that someone would write the same message in 4 forums and be playing a game. No Way.
Especially the writing. I'm worried about this kid. Absolutely. And praying she is safe.
I would agree with Ana and others who believe this story is genuine, but there are some important indicators that tell me otherwise.
This person was obviously in urgent need of advice and most probably traumatized as well. Would a person in such a mental state take the time out to enter their birth date in their profile and choose a proper image for their account as well? Seems highly unlikely to me.
That is not to say that there are people like "Uncle" in this world. It is a scary thought.
This story is definately a copy right infringment from some magazine.
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*Originally posted by Imdad Ali: *
I would agree with Ana and others who believe this story is genuine, but there are some important indicators that tell me otherwise.
This person was obviously in urgent need of advice and most probably traumatized as well. Would a person in such a mental state take the time out to enter their birth date in their profile and choose a proper image for their account as well? Seems highly unlikely to me.
That is not to say that there are people like "Uncle" in this world. It is a scary thought.
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hmm .... true ...... this makes you doubt whether this story is genuine or not
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*Originally posted by Najim: *
This story is definately a copy right infringment from some magazine.
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this is what i'm trying to say
khair, what can we say its true or not, i just hope its not true, n if its true, may Allah show them the right path
Oh..so the facts are that...
Sinse the Innocent filled out all the blanks... She must be lying!
Sorry. But think that is a weak answer. A sorry answer.
My goodness gracious.
Because someone filled out the blanks.... is the guilty one?
The man from U.N.C.L.E. is clearly the one who should be bearing the burden of guilt.
Please, If you disagree. Give me a good argument otherwise.