Munza - it's funny how all moms want the same things for their children but their approach to parenting is as different as night and day.
I feel that as a older sibling, as a mother, as a wife my life is full of responsibilites, schedules and deadlines. I have clock installed in my brain - I don't even need a watch.
I know my girls will have to do the same once they are all grown up. Their lives will be hectic and busy with careers, kids of their own.
As I miss my childhood days with limitless time - I just want to give them some of the same.
I just hope they are happy and healthy always.
I hear you.
And yes, our approaches are so very different.
I know that my daughter's life will likely be more hectic than mine as she will have so much more available to her than I ever did. And if she is anything like me and her father then she will want to cram in as much of life as she possibly can. Keeping this in mind I am trying to get her ready for that type of lifestyle.
Don't get me wrong.....we still have lazy afternoons or days when neither of us are governed by the clock and we just do what we feel like doing rather than what we needed to do.
I still let her make decisions about how to spend her time....but I give her choices. I make sure that she is in control so that she learns that there are rewards and consequences surrounding anything we do. (Example: We can have a lazy Saturday afternoon and skip homework but we understand that Sunday will be busy as we will be playing catch up.)
I have a cousin that raised three girls. While they were growing up she was criticized for not putting more responsibility on them. Those girls were never tasked with house work or with other chores. Other than picking up after themselves and perhaps setting and clearing the table, they did nothing but focus on their studies.
They did well in school and got degrees and jobs. Then it came time to get married and settle into being wives as well as mothers........did they face issues? You betcha. I don't want that for my daughter.
I started cooking at the age of 10.
I'm hoping to start Noor earlier than that.