Please Send Your Kids to Daycare!

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I guess one of my objectives as a Mom has always been to ensure that my child is self-sufficient as soon as possible. Apni zindagi ka kuch pata nahin. Allah janay kab bulawa aja'ay.

I kept her home with me until she was 3. Even then she had a schedule and rarely watched TV. There was always discipline and I have still never really "yelled" at her.

I have often been criticized for pushing her to achieve more than is expected of her. No I never do it at the cost of her missing out on all the things that kids should get to do while they are still "kids".

I think I drive her hard for selfish reasons that ultimately will benefit her too. I want her to be independent and self-sufficient so that, when the time comes, I can go in peace and never fear what will become of her without me. Sounds a bit depressing when I read it but the intention is good.

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Munza - it's funny how all moms want the same things for their children but their approach to parenting is as different as night and day.

I feel that as a older sibling, as a mother, as a wife my life is full of responsibilites, schedules and deadlines. I have clock installed in my brain - I don't even need a watch.

I know my girls will have to do the same once they are all grown up. Their lives will be hectic and busy with careers, kids of their own.

As I miss my childhood days with limitless time - I just want to give them some of the same.

I just hope they are happy and healthy always.

time pass...WELCOME AUGUST ~*~ پاکستان زِنده با د‎ ~*~
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yeah i knew a few families like that but luckily they're already sending their kids to nuseries, my own cousin is a person who can't wait to send her children to private nurseries otherwise her kids'd watching starplus and zee tv all day.

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haha...most school going teen age kids that I know can't even a hold a proper conversation with adults unless they're from a middle class family and go to a very expensive school.

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I hear you.
And yes, our approaches are so very different.

I know that my daughter's life will likely be more hectic than mine as she will have so much more available to her than I ever did. And if she is anything like me and her father then she will want to cram in as much of life as she possibly can. Keeping this in mind I am trying to get her ready for that type of lifestyle.

Don't get me wrong.....we still have lazy afternoons or days when neither of us are governed by the clock and we just do what we feel like doing rather than what we needed to do.

I still let her make decisions about how to spend her time....but I give her choices. I make sure that she is in control so that she learns that there are rewards and consequences surrounding anything we do. (Example: We can have a lazy Saturday afternoon and skip homework but we understand that Sunday will be busy as we will be playing catch up.)

I have a cousin that raised three girls. While they were growing up she was criticized for not putting more responsibility on them. Those girls were never tasked with house work or with other chores. Other than picking up after themselves and perhaps setting and clearing the table, they did nothing but focus on their studies.

They did well in school and got degrees and jobs. Then it came time to get married and settle into being wives as well as mothers........did they face issues? You betcha. I don't want that for my daughter.

I started cooking at the age of 10.
I'm hoping to start Noor earlier than that.

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I don't prefer to cook in my 30s and I hope my girls can find a man that can cook. (just like their mother did ) :D

kidding aside... I totally get you about the responsibility part. Not just even house chores but how to pay a bill, how to get insurance, get a car leased. My dad was adamant about his girls knowing how to take care of themselves in the world.

But he had strange balance. He royally spoiled us too.... and it was hard when me and my sister got married but we cherished being that spoiled EVER. It ain't happening NOW. :)

I am glad I knew how to take care myself when I got married.

You sound like a good mom that puts a lot of thought into your parenting.

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I used to think that daycare was a no no but I have changed my opinion after seeing a lot of kids raised at home and others who went to daycare....there's a BIG difference, kids that go to daycare are much more social and disciplined since they interact a lot with other kids of different backgrounds. If you send your kids to a good daycare, they teach them a lot of great skills plus it's like a school environment so you're preparing them for school. I think if we can afford I will definitely send my child to daycare, there's no question about it!

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It is wonderful to see someone that has been spoiled behave in such a responsible manner. I think the story of your father spoiling you is fabricated. :tongue:

Noor is very spoiled in certain aspects. She gets everything that she wants…albeit in time when she has earned it or learned the value of it. Her father will attest to that!

She has the fanciest clothes and more than any in her age/social circle.

She gets all of the attention since she is an only child at home and one of the youngest amongst her local cousins.

Hmmm…maybe I have been compensating with my rules because at some level I know that she is spoiled…

More thought required.

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if kids r home watching tv or playing on comp for hrs n mom is on phone or watching tv then its better for kids development that they go to day care. i just hate it when moms(esp desi moms) use this easy way out (putting kids on tv/comp n not spending proper time with them).

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You gotta choose the daycares carefully though. The private, at-home day cares with experienced caregivers who look after a small group of children and provide stimulating activities and personal attention (yes, they do exist) are worth paying a little more for rather than the franchise day care centers with rules set up by corporate types who probably don't even know what a diaper looks like.

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well i dunno wat age group we r talking abt but if the purpose is just to send kids somewhere for a good time there r many options like supervised playschools, camps, after school programmes, parental co-ops etc.