Okay, so one year ago we were new in this area and I was suffering from depression for not having any friends and acquaintances. My husband tried to help me by setting me up with a Pakistani girl that worked at the local petrol station, he introduced me to her in the shop and then told me to take her cell number and I did, but didn’t call her after passing 3 or 4 weeks coz I just completely forgot about her.
Each time my husband goes to the petrol station she complains about me for not calling her…hubby gave her my landline and cell number and all the details like homeschooling etc
So she called me few weeks ago and told me she’s married to a man from Pakistan and her husband’s still looking for work so she works at the station to support him and how hard it is for her… and again today she called and said, “aap ke teen boys hain?”…“aur nahi kernay?”. Before I could answer her back she said, “haan aap aur bachay karen gay coz molvi buhat bachay kertay hain”. I said what is she on about and I was so shocked and didn’t know what to say to her. And then she went on asking about homeschooling, I was so angry at my husband because I warned him not to tell her too much about me, I hope he hasn’t given her the house address.
And the most shocking thing she said when I asked her about her husband, she said, “woh tou main nay gup maari thi, main married nahi hoon, bass sab ko aisay keh deti hoon”. I thought she’s a true nutcase. I’m pretty disgusted at her behaviour.
How shall I save myself from her? I never want to meet her or even see her bootha again. But she works at one and the only local petrol station and often my husband has to go there to fill up the tank.
My husband almost forced me to be her friend, he sees her and talks to her more than I talk to her, I’m gutted.
when we moved to Canada from US, we met a Pakistani khatoon at mall (for freaking 5 min) and she told my begum “aap k doo bachey hain, doo aur ker leen bareee subsidy milteee hai” lol. I had to take all the heat from begum after that coz wo khatoon tu ‘sa la ma lai kum’ ker k chal deen
some khawateen never learn…
PS: your poor hubby was only trying to help u. At max this can be labeled as ‘help gone wrong’. Atleast appreciate him…
if her number shows up on caller id, dont pick up the phone, ask psyah to tell her that you got busy in studies or something.
Better solution, change your #
Even Better, pick up phone once and let her know that you have got busy in studies..kids etc and dont get much time for long phone conversations. Ager aqalmad ho gee tu samjha jayee gee. Ager aqalband ho gee tu try 1st and 2nd solution.
if her number shows up on caller id, dont pick up the phone, ask psyah to tell her that you got busy in studies or something.
Better solution, change your #
Even Better, pick up phone once and let her know that you have got busy in studies..kids etc and dont get much time for long phone conversations. Ager aqalmad ho gee tu samjha jayee gee. Ager aqalband ho gee tu try 1st and 2nd solution.
hmmm...I need to be really mean to her. I think sometimes it's okay to be mean to jahil people like her.
Just ignore her for sometime. I assume this is the beginning of an acquaintance and she is trying to become friends but eventually would give up once she gets the message?
You know what, I think she IS married, because once after much insistence from my hubby I called her and some paindoo boy picked up the phone, he couldn’t even speak Urdu properly.
