I’m originally Turkish and getting married to a wonderful Pakistani guy. So i still don’t know how everything works!
We have the Registry, Mehndi and Walima ceremonies coming up next year. I originally planned to have the Nikkah and Walima ceremonies together in one day, but the elders in my fiance’s family have said that we can’t do that, they have to be 2 seperate things. We’ve adjusted things round, and all is sorted, however i wanted to know if i have to have my henna designs on me for all 3 ceremonies?
The registry (english ceremony) and Nikkah (which we are doing together on one day) is the week before the mehndi, then the Walima is 2 days after the mehndi. I don’t want my henna to fade for the walima, and i dont want to touch it up either. I was thinking of not having henna for the registry and nikkah, then doing my henna afew days before the mehndi so its fresh for the mehndi and walima. Is this ok tho? Is it a problem if i don’t have the henna on me during the registry and nikkah?
Please please help me, i really don’t know who to speak to about it as i can’t seem to get a straight answer out of anyone i have asked, and my fiance is getting really angry with me as i need to make a decision on what dates to do everything!
For the registry/nikkah (since they're on th same day), you can get a nice small design on your hands, the trick is the timing..do it the night before, so that at the ceremony, it'll be dark.. most mehndis nowadays fade very quickly but for that day it shud be ok. IF you dont want to waste money going toa salon, get a friend to do it..And since the valima/mehndi is a week later, get the traditioanl heavy design done from a parlour (or talented friend;). Hope this helps and best of luck!
N hun dont worry, dont stress out.. i know its so easy to stress out and go hyper over this, ii’m getting married very soon so i understand how you feel.. but best thing i can tell u is to not worry.. when the time comes ull just do it ya knw?
Best of luck!
It is absolutely fine to not have the mehndi on for the nikah and registry.
In fact, given the choice, I wouldn't have it on for those two events.
Some of us are fortunate enough to have the opportunity to experience and enjoy two different cultures at our weddings....make the most of it.
Wear a white gown with veil for the nikah and registry.....don't do mehndi.....hold a bouquet of white roses or cala lillies....go the whole nine yards.
Then for the mehndi and valima.....go all out desi.....put the mehndi on, do the red or whatever colour lehnga suite you, etc, etc.
Most of all, enjoy your wedding and make beautiful memories!
so i understand how you feel.. but best thing i can tell u is to not worry.. when the time comes ull just do it ya knw? 