Please help me.

[newbee13]

Re: Please help me.

@redvelvet

Wait a minute…why are you even contemplating the possibility of how you would live with yourself if you were to break your fiance’s heart? If you truly care for him, why is this doubt even occurring to you?

He hadn’t moved on these past 6 years eh? Well, then why didn’t he come after you earlier…at a point when your relationship with you fiance hadn’t solidified. If he missed you that bad, he would have done something sooner…not 6 years later when you are only months away from getting married. He has no respect for another man’s relationship and gas no qualms about destroying it, so doesn’t that make you question if he can honor a relationship with you? This sort of “headiness” or “passion/junoon” tends to be short-lived…it fizzles out as fast as it started.

His bhabi made some stupid bollyoodish comment that you’ll never forget him because he’s a part of your past…so what? We don’t “forget” anything in our past that impacted us…and it’s not just confined to ex boyfriends…it includes many things; that’s just the way human memory works. With time, things can decrease in significance. Your ex was a part of your past, but you moved on from him enough to have a 6-year relationship with another guy…and this is a sign that ex’s “yaad” didn’t plague you to the point his bhabi is suggesting or would like you to believe.

And even if you were to go back to your ex, there’s a chance he might become insecure about your 6-year-relationship with your fiance…as in bring it up during conflicts or other points. That’s one of the twisted things about human psyche. Your ex’s disregard for another guy’s relationship can say something about his character and should make you question it…but women tend to be more forgiving and will overlook…but men don’t overlook do easily. If you dump your fiance of 6 years for this ex…it also raises questions about your character…one that your ex may not entertain right away, but maybe at a later point when the headiness wears off.

Maybe you find the “newness” of the attention from your ex exciting and want that from your fiance…and that’s why you’re having doubts. I don’t recommend going back to the ex, but I also feel bad for the fiance…it’s not fair to him if he’s 100% committed.

@redvelvet

Wait a minute…why are you even contemplating the possibility of how you would live with yourself if you were to break your fiance’s heart? If you truly care for him, why is this doubt even occurring to you?

He hadn’t moved on these past 6 years eh? Well, then why didn’t he come after you earlier…at a point when your relationship with you fiance hadn’t solidified. If he missed you that bad, he would have done something sooner…not 6 years later when you are only months away from getting married. He has no respect for another man’s relationship and gas no qualms about destroying it, so doesn’t that make you question if he can honor a relationship with you? This sort of “headiness” or “passion/junoon” tends to be short-lived…it fizzles out as fast as it started.

His bhabi made some stupid bollyoodish comment that you’ll never forget him because he’s a part of your past…so what? We don’t “forget” anything in our past that impacted us…and it’s not just confined to ex boyfriends…it includes many things; that’s just the way human memory works. With time, things can decrease in significance. Your ex was a part of your past, but you moved on from him enough to have a 6-year relationship with another guy…and this is a sign that ex’s “yaad” didn’t plague you to the point his bhabi is suggesting or would like you to believe.

And even if you were to go back to your ex, there’s a chance he might become insecure about your 6-year-relationship with your fiance…as in bring it up during conflicts or other points. That’s one of the twisted things about human psyche. Your ex’s disregard for another guy’s relationship can say something about his character and should make you question it…but women tend to be more forgiving and will overlook…but men don’t overlook do easily. If you dump your fiance of 6 years for this ex…it also raises questions about your character…one that your ex may not entertain right away, but maybe at a later point when the headiness wears off.

Maybe you find the “newness” of the attention from your ex exciting and want that from your fiance…and that’s why you’re having doubts. I don’t recommend going back to the ex, but I also feel bad for the fiance…it’s not fair to him if he’s 100% committed.

No im not thinking about leaving him, I probably can never do that.. however all the stress that’s been given to me… I started to think over IF I should. IF im making a mistake.. (mistake because I have made a lot of mistakes in life.. so I don’t trust myself )

2 months after we broke up, my ex came after me. I told him I don’t want to be with him as he never cared for me apart from the starting three months. he would ignore me for hours, give everyone priority apart from me, even his mother told him I was ‘TIDDI’ as im short so when I left him I never considered going back to him.. I don’t know why when he texted me I forgave him and forgot all the pain.

as I told u im very emotional.. so what his bhabhi said.. somehow it made me feel that it would really be like this. :s kind of loss the ability to think clearly..

ive never thought of leaving my fiancé on a serious note so I didn’t think of my past disturbing my ex.. but im sure I cant forget my fiancé ever in my life. I spent happy six years of my life with him. he has cared a lot for him and I also feel so bad for what ive done to him… but I never meant to hurt him.. humans make too many mistakes and realize in end.. he just manipulated me so badly into guilt.

sadly ill have to agree to you about the newness and the attention.. I get a lot of attention and my fiancé thinks im beautiful.. but theres a thing about new attention.. I probably liked it.. (when i initially started talkin to ex my fiancé was too busy in studies and job.. he gave me no time and i was lonely.. however this changed.) I know my fiancé is fully committed to me and wants to marry me