please help me through my naivety.

Re: please help me through my naivety.

Thank You very much enigmatic, that does make me feel better.

What I dont understand about arranged marriages is how you love someone just because they are your husband or finace. Again part of my naivety.

Re: please help me through my naivety.

Well i am not married yet but i can tell you it takes hell of a commitment and responsibility. You will probably make new friends and insha'Allah travel as well. Wish you nothing but best inspiron!!. One thing that married ppl tell me which i take this advise seriously is: Shoro shoro din harrai..baqi sarai din wasai he bharay jatai hain.

Re: please help me through my naivety.

love isnt as simple as that..

there are many a times in a "love marriage" where you may find yourself not "loving" your partner cus of some disagreement or watever...

arranged or not arranged means nothing... and love just doesnt happen... it takes time and nurtuing.

Just cus a couple werent arranged, doesnt mean they had a love marriage either.. this is a misconception.

Re: please help me through my naivety.

I recently got married and MA right now our marriage is everything I always wanted and more. Not that we don't have disagreement and some tough times etc but I wouldn't trade this in for anything! But then this wasn't an arranged marriage. However, I would say even in the arranged scenario, I would talk to the potential rishta very openly and honestly. Tell him what's important to you in life & marriage and ask him what's important to him. Don't go into it blindly - make sure there's compatibility and then for the rest leave to Allah and hope for the best. Good luck!