Please give your inputs

[blessed2006]

Re: Please give your inputs

@redvelvet

“A” should tell “S” about her engagement. She need not go into an explanation of her “happiness reasons”…but it’s better if she informs her friend. If S were to find out from other sources…it’s likely to do more damage than good. Then the question will come up as to “Why did you exclude me from this news?” And what would A say then? If she were to respond with, “Oh…but you were dumped…and didn’t have a guy in your life like I do…so I just didn’t feel comfortable telling you about it.” That explanation can be taken for pity…and it can make one feel worse. It’s better to tell S about it.

She can approach “S” by first asking her how she’s doing/holding up. “A” can even ask “S” if there anything she can do to help her feel better about the break up…she can let “S” know that she’s there for her…and she can encourage “S” by telling her that she WILL eventually find the right person when it’s meant to be. I think that if she starts the discussion in this way…it shows that she’s not only concerned about her own happiness…but also cares about her friend. So start it off by talking to S about how she’s doing, etc. And then very calmly…“A” can let “S” know that she wants to share some good news with her (S)…and that since “S” is her best friend and like her sister…she’s among the first people that she want to tell and wants her to be a part of this happiness." “A” doesn’t have to clap her hands, scream, and do cartwheels. She can calmly share her news and balance it out by asking “S” about her life.

agreed. exactly what i wanted to say but you have explained it in more detail.