Please give your inputs

[Dubaiwali]

Re: Please give your inputs

Wow, I really like what you have to say, especially towards the end. So in your opinion, we should delay telling S? It has already been 3 days, how much longer? A week? I am just afraid that S might start thinking negatively about A. Like you know things like “isko apni khushi ki parhi hai, doesn’t she know what I am going through?” and stuff like this. I am just afraid for their friendship, even a single small thing can **break friendships these days. **I have been through a lot of **broken **friendships, so I know how misunderstandings are created etc.

This is why I was confused as well, about what to tell A. I think no matter what, A should wait a little and then tell S. Maybe first console S and let her have the satisfaction that friends are around her, in her time of need. I have also been talking to S a lot, as she is one of my best friends and well she is very down and I hate the way she is talking these days. I am just afraid, she might take this good news in the wrong way.

Thank you for your comment though, puts things in to perspective. Will think about it a bit more. Whether to tell A to tell her immediately or wait a bit. Oh and the most important aspect of this all, how to approach S and actually TELL her.

@pakwoman

it’s important to be there for your friends in happiness and sorrow, but i think right now S really needs her friends. she is going through a very hard time, thus helping her out should be your first priority. Firstly you should help S forget about the whole thing and start anew. She has made a huge mistake but there is no use crying over spilled milk… she’ll just have to get on with her life. I know its easier said than done but you really have to try. The whole engagement thing could also be used as a distraction for S, since friends really enjoy their best friend’s weddings - but I think you should delay telling her as much as possible since she needs time to heal. You can tell her a week before the wedding but right now it’ll just deepen her wound even if they are best friends. Yes she might feel bad that you kept it from her later, but it’s for the best. It was just bad timings for things to happen - A will have to bear the absence of her friend’s enthusiasm for the marriage.