i am getting married soon going to pak from usa .. totally arranged .. my questions are
what do u do if ur mother-in-law ask you to give her gold jewelry to keep with her?
how long after walima should you wait to go back to ur parents house?
what do u do if ur inlaws ask you to give them the money given to u by their side people?
since i am going from usa i will be living in pak for too long .. girls how do u cope with living in a new enviroment with people u dont know much?
what are the things not to say to ur inlaws?
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what do u do if ur mother-in-law ask you to give her gold jewelry to keep with her?
ANSWER: you don't have any option you have to do what she says
how long after walima should you wait to go back to ur parents house?
ANSWER: thats upto your family or your in laws... some brides go right after walima and some go next day
what do u do if ur inlaws ask you to give them the money given to u by their side people?
ANSWER: they shouldt be asking fo rit and if they do then im sorry you have to give them
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My cousin was little wise in this case. though her marriage was also arranged but she made very very good understanding with her husband and that kind of made things easy for her.
when her mother-in-law ask her to give her gold jewelry, she simply replied that her husband was planing to open locker at bank and is much safe to keep in bank she (mother in law) should also give valuable things to her son so things stay safe (she did discussed with her husband all this before her mother in law asked her).
how long after walima should you wait to go back to ur parents house? that really depends on situation, at times in-law’s showing love do say themselves that go and see you parents but if not then you can ask you husband when he feels its the right time for that.
what do u do if ur inlaws ask you to give them the money given to u by their side people? Her in laws did inquire to her how much she got cause they wanted to know that if they got good amount compared to what they have been giving on other people marriages. She did told them all about it and even asked them if they want to keep it, (but she asked all that the time when her husband was present before that she was kind of stalling that i have it all somewhere in my bag (big bag) will search in evening, so that her husband be at home at that time.)
i dont know if she kept it or gave it to her in-laws but she was pretty kind of hard for her in-laws to manage in the start. She was full confident because of having good understanding with her husband and never went on her own always included her husband in a very wise way.
and guess what she was a Lawyer by profession 
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so I have seen praise for a lawyer . I have lived . i have lived.
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i dint get it
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Loll ur cosin was soo chalako
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Loll ur cosin was soo chalako
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You can say that again.
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Ab do dafa touch ho gya to mein kia kron …:
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do nothing, it can happen with anyone you know.
chill
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oh that realy helps
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The jewellery gifted to me from my side is in my mom's bank locker and the jewellery gifted from in-laws side is in my MIL's bank locker. I was leaving the country right after the wedding so didn't wanna take all that jewellery with me. And I'm quite okay with this because I trust my MIL and know that whenever I need that jewellery she'll give it to me. She's actually only keeping it with her because hubby or I don't have a locker as of yet. So I dunno, it may not be such a bad thing if she keeps it with her? At least you won't have the responsibility of taking care of all that gold.
Money issue - I don't think your in-laws should ask for the money given by your side. My MIL just asked a total of what amount I got but she didn't really look at all of it or even ask for that money. Even all the money from the in laws side was taken care by hubby and I. But esp your side of the money, you should keep...just tell her you've already deposited it in your bank account because it's safer there. Speak to your husband about this before the wedding if it really is such an issue. These things weren't an issue for us so we never really discussed it prior to the wedding.
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First thing first lady, are these question confronting you, or you think they will happen...... a lot of negitivity or cofusion leads to blunders by you.....but the gold stuff is yours , its a gift, so its no like your in laws can ask it back.. then the money is your salami not theirs.....you should just be normal , try to understand each person in the in laws house. but you need to get things straigtened up with your husband to be..if you have any doubt questions about your in laws or anything else, ask him...... if ur from USA you need to guard yourself , people here will have all sorts of perceptions about you, if you and your husbands eventually have to go to USA then you should, coz im telling you it will be difficult adjusting here.
Which City your going to?
do let me know if in Karachi
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My mil didn't asked me anything about the gold. She gave me her safe key to put my gold and manage the keys myself in case i need it.
When i got back to uk i have taken everythin wit me and gave it to mum to put it in the locker..
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I can't understand why your mother in law should ever ask you to give her your jewelry or money? I've never heard of it before.