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hi a friend of mine needs advise from me which i am asking you to help me in this, she has been divorced for four years and she is thinking to get married again but her family is against it because of her two young daughters aged 13 and 15 they say they cant trust a stranger in the same house. what do you think she should do listen to the family or think about her future life where she doesnt want to spend alone please advise thankyou.
i would say she has the right to remarry again, she should go ahead with remarraying
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and never listen to people...she's not "virgin" anymore...
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If her family is so concerned about the girls why doesn't the family offer to take care of them ? This will be a good solution to the problem. Family is right to some extent though. She has the right to remarry but with these girls in the home she has to be very vigilant.
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right, so her family is saying that she cant trust a man in the house with two young girls? did then not, all those years ago, give their own daughter away for marriage to a man too? You cant protect yourself bcoz you feel you cant trust ppl. Sure be careful, but the lady should have a chance to live the rest of her life in happiness. May Allah SWT bless her with a kind partner who is a source of happiness and security for her, and her daughters.
Ameen, Summa’Ameen 
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Since she was married once and divorced and now is no longer a virgin she need no longer get permission from her parents or her kids. It is her life and she has the right to live it the way she wants to.
HAaaaahaaaaaa:omg:
what does it have 2 do with her virginity?
some of u ppl r hilarious!
She will have to be very very very very careful, but then again, i'd assume that she would be very careful and vigilant to begin with...
Also, is there a specific someone that her family is against, or is it just the idea of re-marriage that is causing arguments?
Technically, it’s not about whether she has had sex or not. but Islamically, the procedure for marriage is different for someone who is getting marreid for the first time, (a “virgin”) or someone who is marrying again after a divorce or death.. in the first scenario, i think she needs a wali..and in the second scenario she doesn’t.
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How can the family be so judgmental about the parental skills of the woman??
She is a woman second and a mother first and noOne other than her knows whats best for her daughters.
No parent would invite a stranger into their lives unless they fully turst them.
If families had their ways half the world would be miserable.
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once the guy marries her, he is not a na mehram for her daughters ..
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I think the lady has to make the decision after a lot of thinking cuz i have SEEN a case where daughter's life was ruined due to mother's remarriage she doesnt get the love of her real father neither from the step father....she cant live with her family normally....she has step siblings....then money problem...less attention etc so in anyways i think she has to secure her daughters in any case a mother wouldnt never go for her own happiness without overseeing her child's happiness.....n u can never judge a man maybe she should get engaged and see how the man gets along with her daughters.......ppl r not realzing wot maybe lying ahead for the daughters!!
once the guy marries her, he is not a na mehram for her daughters ..
so step-parents aren't na-mehram? i thought they were..esp since adoptive parents are considered that way as well... what makes the diffrence between adoptive and step parents then?
If her family is so concerned about the girls why doesn't the family offer to take care of them ? This will be a good solution to the problem. Family is right to some extent though. She has the right to remarry but with these girls in the home she has to be very vigilant.
The parents did offer to look after the girls but she does not agree to this.
Virginity got nothing to do with this could you please read my post again.
She will have to be very very very very careful, but then again, i'd assume that she would be very careful and vigilant to begin with...
Also, is there a specific someone that her family is against, or is it just the idea of re-marriage that is causing arguments?
There is'nt a specific person it is just the idea of her getting married again.The argument is about her daughters went through a lot when their parents were geting divorced and having a stranger in the house will make them uncomfortable.
I think the lady has to make the decision after a lot of thinking cuz i have SEEN a case where daughter's life was ruined due to mother's remarriage she doesnt get the love of her real father neither from the step father....she cant live with her family normally....she has step siblings....then money problem...less attention etc so in anyways i think she has to secure her daughters in any case a mother wouldnt never go for her own happiness without overseeing her child's happiness.....n u can never judge a man maybe she should get engaged and see how the man gets along with her daughters.......ppl r not realzing wot maybe lying ahead for the daughters!!
Thanx that seems like agood idea getting engaged and see how the man gets along wiyh the daughters.