Once my room mate brought warmth to my heart, prayers to my lips and tears to my eyes when I woke up to get embarrassed by the sight of all my unclean clothes washed, ironed and properly placed. I couldn’t wash them because of work and tiredness and got this surpirse just when I planned to wash them. He was behaving as if he didn’t know who did it and refused to take credit, but I caught him on other occasions.
A sudden love letter to one’s wife, a beautiful unexpected lovely (her favourite) gift for ami jaan, something she liked alot but couldn’t find. Cleaning and organizing the computer/study room of baba jaan in his absence, the priceless expression on his face when he entered a different room to read newspaper…
What can be other options ? Any ideas ?
I read this hadith that when a person suddenly gives happiness to a fellow human, Allah (Swt) forgives all his sins. The closer that person is to us, the higher the reward…
I dunno about you dude, but I'd rather not have anyone clean my study room or bedroom and put things in places that I would never find them. Buy me a cheeseburger. That's good enough surprise for me.
It allllllll varies from person to person, nature to nature, thinking to thinking, relationship to relationship, time to time, feelings to feelings, attitude to attitude, manner to manner, sense to sense, judgement to judgement, understanding to understanding, perception to perception, intention to intention, contentment to contentment.....etc.
But still there are some universal acts, which unfortunately I haven't done yet.
Lets move further, any heart soother ? more holier than cheeseburger, ignoring the thread starter ?!
It allllllll varies from person to person, nature to nature, thinking to thinking, relationship to relationship, time to time, feelings to feelings, attitude to attitude, manner to manner, sense to sense, judgement to judgement, understanding to understanding, perception to perception, intention to intention, contentment to contentment.....etc.
But still there are some universal acts, which unfortunately I haven't done yet.
Lets move further, any heart soother ? more holier than cheeseburger, ignoring the thread starter ?!
I don't know, man. That would be going too deep. Innit.
Little things can make someone's day. My roommates would sometimes do the nicest things and I still remember them. It would be so simple like making my bed, or bringing me dinner if I was too tired/lazy to go to Caf etc. I think these fast and hectic lives we live, it's nice for us to do things like that for others. They're simple little tasks and don't take anything away from us. Money related things are really just things, little gestures like this mean a lot in my oppinion.
At the end, it's not even the task that was done, but it's just nice to know that someone things/cares for you enough to do something kind for you.
JazakAllah khair for sharing. As they say, "Khidmat sey Khuda Milta hai"
There are some people I have seen who seem to have this quality by nature, that they just can't spare time for themselves. You would always find them helping people irrespective of their relation, status,...etc.
I read this hadith that when a person suddenly gives happiness to a fellow human, Allah (Swt) forgives all his sins. The closer that person is to us, the higher the reward...
I am hoping your reason for doing little nice things for other people is not so that your sins will be forgiven. If that is your reason, please don't do anything for anyone, because you are not doing them for their happiness, but for your sins to be forgiven, which is downright selfish.
I am hoping your reason for doing little nice things for other people is not so that your sins will be forgiven. If that is your reason, please don't do anything for anyone, because you are not doing them for their happiness, but for your sins to be forgiven, which is downright selfish.
I am hoping your reason for doing little nice things for other people is not so that your sins will be forgiven. If that is your reason, please don't do anything for anyone, because you are not doing them for their happiness, but for your sins to be forgiven, which is downright selfish.
I don't consider that to be selfish. If we do things for religious purposes, that doesn't mean we're not doing it for the sake of being kind. Islam teaches us to be kind to people, even if the favour is not returned, rather we're rewarded by Allah. We're rewarded for being kind to others and if that's motivating us to be better people then why not?
I think we all can use some "sin forgiving" around here, don't ya think? Especially me, since you've pissed me off
JazakAllah khair for sharing. As they say, "Khidmat sey Khuda Milta hai"
There are some people I have seen who seem to have this quality by nature, that they just can't spare time for themselves. You would always find them helping people irrespective of their relation, status,...etc.
Yes, there are people who have this quality naturally, or they go out of their way to be kind to others. My neighbour is an awesome example for that.
I don't consider that to be selfish. If we do things for religious purposes, that doesn't mean we're not doing it for the sake of being kind. Islam teaches us to be kind to people, even if the favour is not returned, rather we're rewarded by Allah. We're rewarded for being kind to others and if that's motivating us to be better people then why not?
I think we all can use some "sin forgiving" around here, don't ya think? Especially me, since you've pissed me off
It's the intent that is selfish. If you need to be forgiven, you can go ASK for forgiveness or know it in your heart that the reason you're doing a noble act is so that you get forgiveness. Do not try to earn respect and love of those who think you might be doing it selflessly, because you are not.
It is selfish to do something for someone so that God can forgive YOU for YOUR sins that were committed because of YOUR stupidity. See what I mean there? *
Or just do it selflessly FOR the sake of that person.
Every selfless act brings us satisfaction. People have used that to argue that we're incapable of doing anything for others for their sake. I see it as an intent issue. If I am doing something for someone, so that I can feel better about it afterwards, well, that's selfish.*
I am hoping your reason for doing little nice things for other people is not so that your sins will be forgiven. If that is your reason, please don't do anything for anyone, because you are not doing them for their happiness, but for your sins to be forgiven, which is downright selfish.
What do people do in life without an incentive ? It is always lovely to say such things but not practical. Do you select a job "ONLY" on the basis of the amount of happiness you can give to people or on the basis of your own career, salary, comfort, passion, incentives....etc. Of course, those who would select a job of low salary...etc. only for the sake of helping people "ALSO" do it for the reward of their deeds in this life and hereafter. Otherwise he must be an angel, with absolutely no desires and wishes. But NOT a HUMAN.
The list goes on. Allah (swt) knew this nature of human that is why HE created Heaven and Hell. Allah also promised to reward us for our good deeds in this life as well, because HE knew that human is impatient.
Otherwise HE could have just ordered us to do everything for the happiness of people and get nothing in return. Then, only Prophet Mohmmad (saw) would have got 100% marks, all the prophets would have got the highest grades and so on. Me and you would have failed miserably.
Anyways, my point of view might be totally wrong in terms of understanding/faith of some people.. It would only make sense to the Muslims because the Quran and Sunnah are filled with the "Reward for good deeds" and "punishment for bad deeds".
I know what you’re saying and I agree with you. But doing things to please God is not considered selfish, because our intention is not only based on forgiveness, it's to make the other person happy. No good deed is wasted and that is how life is because at the end of the day this life won’t last forever, but the hereafter will. Maslow's motivation theory is that human beings are motivated by unsatisfied needs, which is definitely not the case here. Regardless, everyone has a different view when it comes to religious factors.
This is my personal belief as a Muslim, which may differ from yours so I take my comment back (about that “pissed me off” part.
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Do not try to earn respect and love of those who think you might be doing it selflessly, because you are not.
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No one is trying to earn respect of anyone, except seeking forgiveness of ones sin from Allah (SwT) by expressing our sincerity to HIM through our good actions. This is how HE ordered us to do.
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It is selfish to do something for someone so that God can forgive YOU for YOUR sins that were committed because of YOUR stupidity.
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So is there any better way to get your sins forgiven, by merely saying "O'Allah! forgive me! I won't do it again" By saying this do I compensate for my stupidity that lead to my sinning ?!? Good actions are always best remedy than good words, even though both are important.
Love for a human is nothing if it is not based on the love for Allah (swt). Pleasing a human is nothing if the intention is not to please Allah (swt). If my intention is to make a creation happy without having intention of pleasing the CREATOR, then my actions would be useless in the hereafter. It is just like a person is very helpful, caring and kind towards his siblings but not towards his parents.
Otherwise, the best selfless act would be to present ourselves to cannibals as a delicious meal, for the sake of their happiness.