Re: Playing the field?
It's so hard to find someone that you click with and has the same interests. So good on you for speaking to your parents again. Hope it works out.
Remember marriage is hard enough for the couple never mind interference of others. Will you be living with parents after you get married? Because I think you need to set a few ground rule esp with regards to dabba ke rakhna etc.
And as someone else said, it's the best looking girls who are hard mark and high maintenance and def will not be dabbad, it will b the other way round. So think you need to discuss some of these matters with parents. Going on looks is so superficial.
They should treat others daughters as they want their own to be treated. And if everyone done this, the world would be problem free, or a better place.
yes, whoever I marry, I want to make sure they are okay with living with my parents, and she alhumdullilah is willing to do that. (other girls that I have talked too that were prettier were not willing to do that). I do eventually want to move out but for the first couple years of our marriage, I do want to be with my parents cause both of us suck at cooking and have lived with our parents our whole life.
I spoke with them about what they meant with "dabba ke rakhna" and I think what they meant was they want a daughter in law that will listen and not do whatever she wants. Some girls want to travel and goom around way to much and I kind of see what they mean but also if a girl wants to do that she should have the freedom to do that. "everything in moderation" as they say.
I think the main situation here is they feel I can find someone with the same qualities that is prettier and better looking than her, younger and more educated, and that fact I've only been searching for 4 months is a number they have got stuck in there minds and not willing to let go. They maybe right but I've read way to many stories of people being jaded by the ristha process and I for one don't want to be part of it. As well, I guarantee you if she had come after like 2 years of searching they would be all about her. Not to mention my dad searched for a good 7 to 8 years, my uncles searched a long time also. Apparently my family likes long ass searches.
The funny thing is, I'm eventually going to setup a date where my family will visit hers (its my first time meeting a girls family as well), normally its the parents trying to convince the guy, this time its guy trying to convince the parents >.<. Irony at its finest.
But the way online is setup, you already know alot about the girl before you even meet the family versus the traditional way where they come to your house and meet and talk and see.
