Playing mind games in a relationship.

Mirch · February 12, 2009, 4:26pm

The usual ones like:
“I want your honest opinion”
Silent treatment
The tease
The tears

Will it reinforce the relationship or drive the other person away and/or crazy ?

Sara516 · February 12, 2009, 4:34pm

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I cry. Not b/c I deliberately want to hurt him or bother him or make him feel guilty (i dont play mind games) but b/c i just cant stop em sometimes. :(

skausur · February 12, 2009, 4:36pm

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i think one just needs to be careful where mind games are concerned - can drive the other person away/crazy eventually

rozendeva · February 12, 2009, 4:46pm

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May me I am just crazy to think this ... but i feel , these are not mind games .. these are just ways to communicate and express oneself .... words are not really the only means of communication ...

For eg ... a woman finds it alot more easier to cry and get relief from a worry ... on the other hand a man tends to become silent whn he is in an uncomfy situation ....

these are just various means of communication and the either spouse must be sensitive enough to understand these "signals" from each other ...

come to think of it, its only one's spouse one does these things with ! right ? but i must admit , overdoing certain actions can be a huge put off ... :@:

skausur · February 12, 2009, 4:56pm

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exactly it's the overdoing that creates problems

AnGeL_EyEs · February 12, 2009, 5:07pm

how are these mind games?

if she/he is asking for an honest opinion maybe that is what she REALLY wants.

silent treatment.....maybe she/he is angry at you and just doesnt want to talk to you.

maybe she/he thinks that teasing bring a bit of excitement into the relationship

the tears....maybe she/he cant help it! maybe it is her way of expressing her feelings.

so tell me...how are these mind games? it really depends on the person.....some of these examples you have do not necessarily mean she/he is playing mind games. it may just be another forum of communication.

skausur · February 12, 2009, 5:11pm

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^the above is true for genuine cases but sometimes women cry tears give silent treatment over petty things

AnGeL_EyEs · February 12, 2009, 5:18pm

what may seem petty to you may not be petty to her

Monk · February 12, 2009, 5:20pm

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is there a time when women are not angry ?? I am yet to see.

rabia3983 · February 12, 2009, 5:21pm

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^ those aren't mind games...thats how many girls show their emotions...like i give the silent treatment when i m really hurt. tears when i m sad... nothing wrong with these.

Mirch · February 12, 2009, 5:24pm

Either you do not play those mind games that is why you do not know how they are played and if you do not know how to play them , I do not want to be you teacher at this game.
Or you are playing another mind game by pretending to be innocent.

Mirch · February 12, 2009, 5:25pm

And you want to learn to play those mind games too.

AnGeL_EyEs · February 12, 2009, 5:28pm

:halo: im innocent

no but seriously …men are so quick to think that woman are playing mind games…have you ever thought that maybe they are trying to say something to you and just dont know how to communicate it?

rabia3983 · February 12, 2009, 5:31pm

no thank you…i was born with that talent

njgal · February 12, 2009, 5:36pm

"The Silent Treatment" and "The Tears" are my personal favorite. :) They have to be used at the exact right time and in limitation fro maximum impact. :)

Decent_6Chora · February 12, 2009, 5:38pm

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One that I have to face every 2nd days is "I tried this from magazine/rachel ray, how is the food?" and I am dumb folded ....should i give "honest" opinion or not :)

Mirch · February 12, 2009, 5:39pm

By the way mind games are not limited to just conjugal relationship and to women only.
Friends , relatives , employees , all play those mind games .

saha01 · February 12, 2009, 5:41pm

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lol...some girls try these things on guys, but they dont seem to work that well, one of my friends' fiance tried to give him the silent treatment coz he forgot her bday, but he never even noticed!

then i met her one day at a shopping centre, and she told me the situation, and i told him what to do

Straight_up · February 12, 2009, 5:45pm

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Silent Treatment :AID: is aka Killing Him Softly. More :AID:

Decent_6Chora · February 12, 2009, 5:45pm

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hey one more mind game that I have to face is "nahii kuch nahi" (AKA "its ok" / "fine" / "acha theek hai")

For example you are working late at office and called home

You: Hey honey, how was the day?
Honey: Fine
You: Janu I am going to be late tonight. Got some urgent work from boss
Honey: Its ok / ok / fine / acha (.................................. long silence)

This is THE BOMB. This actually means "its NOT ok" and you should throw the work in bin and rush to home to make your honey happy haan if she argues, thoreee naraz hotee hai ...then its really ok and you can wrap up your work