How many of you have or would play matchmaker between friends and acquaintances you know - why or why not?
Any success stories for those who have tried to set up friends? Any horror stories about a match gone wrong?
My experiences playing matchmaker were as follows when I tried to initiate three different matches:
**First one: **She never called him back and he would constantly call me up asking why she wasn’t interested. Turns out she had a honey on the side and had failed to tell me about it
**Second one: **He was a nice guy and she was a nice girl and while she was interested, he was still “finding” himself at the age of 36 and wouldn’t really make the same effort as her. :hinna:
Third one: He was younger than me and sort of had a crush on me which was why I was keen to set him up with a younger friend of mine who I thought was right for him. Turns out he was a player and no love connection was made.
Since then, I’ve sort of given up on matchmaking, it seems to be more trouble than it’s worth.
I tried to play matchmaker with two of my close friends. It didn't work out (he was interested, she was not), but luckily it did not affect my friendship with them. What I've learnt is if you have to be a matchmaker, don't become a go-between as well. Get the two of them introduced and then get out! Let them figure out the rest themselves.
i tried setting up one of my work mates with my best friends brother.. he sent his "wedding CV" and pics and she didnt like him! didnt even show the pics and cv to her parents. and then he ended up getting married to another girl in an arranged marriage! and he is very happy. i was scared a lil myself when i was setting them up coz he had history with another girl and he didint want his potential wife to know. but i felt awkward not telling her cuz she was my friend. anyway she rejected him and then recently a proposal came for her and she really liked the look of the guy. she sent her pics but then he said no to her!!! i felt sorry for her as she was abit excited about him! if she had married my suggetion she would be rolling in a bmw and living the high life with a very considerate and loving husband!! (just sayin! lol)
i tried setting up one of my work mates with my best friends brother.. he sent his "wedding CV" and pics and she didnt like him! didnt even show the pics and cv to her parents. and then he ended up getting married to another girl in an arranged marriage! and he is very happy. i was scared a lil myself when i was setting them up coz he had history with another girl and he didint want his potential wife to know. but i felt awkward not telling her cuz she was my friend. anyway she rejected him and then recently a proposal came for her and she really liked the look of the guy. she sent her pics but then he said no to her!!! i felt sorry for her as she was abit excited about him! if she had married my suggetion she would be rolling in a bmw and living the high life with a very considerate and loving husband!! (just sayin! lol)
I've never played "matchmaker" between friends. I know other people who friendships have been affected b/c the "matches" went wrong. I know 2 people whose entire "circle of friends" were turned upside down as a result of a "match" gone wrong.
Its not worth it in my opinion. Odds of drama are too high.
Their is only ONE matchmaker. People only become a "zarya" (medium) of completion of HIS decisions, no matter if we consider it a good or a bad match. No one but HE knows the wisdom behind it. At times it might be a test, at times we deserve it.
It isn't just a coincidence that they both were born in the same era since the creation of this world and ended up in the same place out of the whole world. And finally agreed to (or were forced to agree) to marry. (by relatives whom they didn't choose themselves).
which was why I was keen to set him up with a younger friend of mine who I thought was right for him. Turns out he was a player and no love connection was made.
you never asked for matchmaking.