This is not issue of $3 but I feel I should talk to my daughter s teacher as I feel kids taking advantage of her and if kids are do ing today they will do again.
My daughter started school this year. She took $3 to buy ball that were being sold during lunch break. These are limited balls that students were to buy to play.
Her friend, not close friend, took $1 off my daughter telling her friends share and if my daughter didn’t give her she will not be her friend. This girl had lost her coin.
Another kid took $2 off her forcefully but later returned $1.
I am in dilemma as to whether I should talk to her teacher about it or ignore it. I dont want my daughter to suffer or lose friends and at the same time dont want her to be under pressure to fullfil demands of friends.
You should definitely talk to the teacher and escalate this issue! You really don’t want your daughter to have bullies as friends. If she just started school it’s also too early for her to be buying things unsupervised, usually teachers ask for money in labelled envelopes and help kids in making their purchases during early years.
Yes this is how I normally send money to school. But as this was to be purchased during lunch time out of class, my daughter had money in her lunch box.
where do you live? I’m very surprised that any school would have an option for a 4/5 year old to make an unsupervised purchase.
this simply does not happen in our community.
and you’re right…it’s not about $2 or $3…it’s about principle and the impact on your child.
Honestly, I haven’t either, but like you I can totally picture some parents like that.
I don’t mean to go off on a tangent here, but it’s something I’ve always wondered about. You know those really really awful bullies you hear about on the news, the ones that drive their victims to commit suicide–what did the parents of those bullies do? Did they raise them to little monsters or were completely clueless? I know I"m not a parent, but a kid’s actions and behavior reflect on their parents up to a certain point…no?
Definitely tell the teacher and ask her for some guidance and help. Anytime you are concerned about something, you should feel comfortable asking the teacher.
In the meantime, also talk to your child and give her a few lines to say in response when someone does this again. Tell her what to say and instruct her to tell any grown-up in charge when this happens. But she shouldn’t just go straight to the grown-up. Let her know she is allowed to stand up for herself and her belongings. Act it out with her.
Oh I’m totally with you on the reflection and responsibility part there.
I’m the one that says if a 17 year old is out vandalizing something then make the parent pay for the damages.
I don’t have children yet but I’ve observed something while taking my niece and nephew to the park at times. I’ve noticed that the children who are like this tend to be the children of the ladies sitting to the side happily gossipping away and saying nasty things rather than actually watching their children. I’m rather inclined to think that such children learn this behaviour by example from their parents.
I agree. Usually though, people who are not emotionally manipulative/malicious themselves typically do not tolerate such behaviour and take the necessary actions to correct it as soon as they observe it in their children. I really cannot see ladies like the ones I mentioned doing that as people are not likely to correct a behaviour that they do not view as wrong (and if they engage in it themselves, it’s rather obvious that they do not view it as wrong).
Thank you all.
I went to my daughters school and told her teacher. She talked to my daughter than one of the girl. Girl accepted what she did and apologized to my daughter. Her parents were notified.
I wonder how these kids get that way.