is there such a thing? or do people eventually start liking one another? or one friend start liking another? can a person not care for another person without any notion of romance? and is it dependant on the background of the two people
ie. lets say two friends are both desi, are they more likely to develop feelings for each other in comparison to two friends who are lets say one is chinese-asian and another hmm greek..
p.s pls do not bring looks and degrees of beauty and ugliness into this… im talking purely in terms of falling for someones personality..
For many years have I had platonic female friends
With them, just at friendship the line I have ends
More than friends with them I would never be
I'm really not drawn to them like that you see.
Thank you sadzzz, your words are kind
Late at night in verse I express my mind
And now my dear, I must retire to bed
For what comes tomorrow I must rest my head
errrr…u shud never fall in love with ur friends not that u have control over it par…
jab opposite gender mein dostiyan kerien to thori doori rakhni chahiye …
warna pata hi nahi chalta or aik din …hehe…
I think people who say we have a platonic relationship are just kidding themselves. More often than not the guy wants more than just a friendship, from what I have seen and heard, especially if they are both single.
I mean you cant have the same type of reship with a guy friend that you have with a girlfriend. It doesnt matter what race they are, though goray can be alot more easy going, they are still guys.
I have a few men friends that I have platonic relationships with. Some I met in college, some here and there. A couple have been friends 10+ years. One was a guy I dated a few times, we came to a mutual agreement that we are better as friends, My husband and I went to his wedding last year.
He has platonic friendships with girls, also. It would be unfair for me to say he can't just because he is a man.
I guess it depends on your comfort level and what you expect from a partner.
Slightly off topic, but related:
My husband asked about my friends when we first started dating and I explained if I was ever romantically interested in any of them, I would be with them, not him.
When we first started dating, I was on the phone with him and I ran into a friend Ali. I told him I would call him back and he said no, keep the phone on so he could hear the conversation. I said fine and had a fifteen minute long talk with Ali on the street with the phone between us. We spoke about work and Ali's wife, who is a nurse and a sweet woman. After he left, I got back on the phone with my Khan and asked if he heard what he wanted to hear, he laughed and said yes. Later he said that was the beginning of his putting his trust in me, because I didn't argue or get upset, but just did as he asked that time.
I think it depends on the relationship to begin with, how close they are, etc. Like if it's someone you talk to in passing, and sometimes online or on the phone and stuff, then i thnk it can be kept strictly platonic. however, if u spend allur time wth that person, tell them every lil thing going on wtih ur life etc, then i don't think the relationship can be platonic. sooner or later either the guy or the girl will start liking the other, and that can getmessy. Rani's right..if u have aguy friend, u shud keep some distance from him...be nice and polite and normal, but don't get attached....it only brings heartache in the end if things don't go the right way
I had platonic relationship and others too, and romance was never crossed my mind during all these relationship, because of this they are still my friends and some who tried to go more are even not in contact more.
I think friendship is far more lasting relationship based on only friendship.
not that u have control over it par…
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