I don’t know this is the appropriate place to post this thread or not. So my question is what you can do to the peeps who are in the habit of looking into your plate. I mean they want to know WHAT and HOW MUCH you are eating? I won’t mind if someone’s takes something to eat off my plate but please don’t look into my plate like seriously.. I don’t do this so naturally I want you to do the same. I know of a person who does it religiously… You have a plate in your hand with food and that person can’t walk past you without having a quick peek into your plate. ugh
I never post but had to reply to this. Both my bhabi’s do this, like actually strain their neck to see how much is in my or my mom’s plate. My response is to do it right back to them or hold out your plate and ask if they want a better view lol. It’s better to be the bigger person and just let it go
lol. I’ve seen people who do this constantly. I usually have a reply ready which suits me perfectly. You see, I’m quite thin and am considered under weight amongst most Pakistani’s although quite honestly I just can’t gain weight. Anyway, so when they stare at my plate I go straight up
“Aunty ji, itna gor se mut dekhain, pehle he kuch jism pe charta nahi he, baki ka bhi uttar jae ga” and then I laugh and encourage them to laugh as well “par salan zarror try karna, bara maze ka he” lol. Some aunties look at me like Im a weirdo the others give an awkward laugh and walk away. lol
I would prefer plate ogling to seriously loud noises when someone else eats… I can reciprocate with plate ogling of my own to give them a taste of their own medicine but I can’t eat with someone going chapar chapar.
I take it that the oggling “peeps” in question are either extended relatives or in-laws. OP, is it possible for you to maybe eat elsewhere so that you are not in their sight? If not, then you can try saying something like…“Aap itnay ghor se dekh hain meri plate ko, lagta hai that you’re hungry. Aap bhi lain na”…and encourage her to eat as well. Say this very nicely and I think that if you say this to them every day…they will eventually stop staring at your plate. Repetition is maddening. :D. Now…IF…you know that saying any remark at all will only create unnecessary drama…then ignore it.
These are learned habits - And parents shouldn’t do it themselves because kids are picking everything up and if a kid is caught doing such things at home, should be straightened out immediately.
My husband had this annoying habit of eating things without me knowing; like I would find a banana peel in awd places or he would drink a glass of milk chup chup kay…Then as I found it; his mom has the very same habits; I obviously can’t changer her or want to, but I made sure to get him to stop, he did thank God; now even he offers me a piece of twix from his own bar or eats freely around the house just like I always have
