i got married 7 yrs before and have 3 little kids. i am a working woman doing an executive job with handsome salary package. due to some official matters i had to relocate to my parent's place in another city with kids, for some time. let me tell that my mother in law has never been good to me and my husband is always on her side, he loves his kids btw. now i have been living in another city, far from him, since last 1 year. and while living away i have realized that if i could settle permanently in this city, it would relieve me from my mother in law eventually. my kids already miss their father so much. i am going through a phase of anxiety, depression and fear these days due to possible outcomes of this decision. i fear what if it would lead my husband away from me, what if he denied to settle with us and to leave her mother (she already used to visit her other kids houses on and off). my husband is having a good job in his own city. that's what makes me uncomfortable to believe that may be he won't leave his job for us, what if he preferred living in his own home. please friends help me by giving sincere suggestions. i am sooo worried these days for myself and my kids' future.
P.S. my husband may not like the idea of buying my own house through loan, as i cant pay in cash due to not having enough savings on my side. i haven't discussed it with him clearly yet. BUT i am done with abusive behaviour of MIL towards me
So here are my two cents. Whatever you are planning, do discuss with your husband immediately. Planning all the way by yourself isnt good. And then executing those plans without letting your husband know is even worse. It should always be done mutually.
Is there anyway you two can meet halfway? Like some give and take?
As long as you love your husband and vice versa you two should be able to figure out. Remember there are 3 kids in the middle. It wouldnt be wise to make anything worse specially when given original post I’m assuming that he is nice towards you
he is nice towards me but he never tells his mother to stop misbehaving with his wife. it has been 7 years now. and i am literally tired of that woman.
meanwhile, we have discussed about buying home in another city , he is totally against it, as his job is his own city. he is also not ready to agree that his mother has always been abusive towards his wife.
i cannot figure out how to come of this situation. this depression is killing me. i do not even want to go on eid holidays to meet my MIL.
Hm..Depression is a very serious and dangerous sign. You have to tell your husband exactly how you are feeling and how you are being effected. Talk, talk and talk. Thats the only way and eventually you’ll find the middle group. As long as you two love each other and are nice, thats the best thing happening right now. Just dont rock the boat completely.
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