Anyway i have decided what i am gonna do what i wanted to see what other people would do in such a situation.
Stalker girl as now she has been dubbed is being avoided by all my friends. Females run from her at sight (i have literally seen that) and guys cower in fear. She has a nasty habit of wanting to know everything about a guys private life and has gotten rebuked for it. She butts into private matters between my friends and their gfs or bfs depending on the friends gender.
Usually when we hang out (the group) if people before mentioned calling stalker girl, they would get dirty looks from a majority of the people sitting. Now it isnt even an issue. Nobody asks about her or anything. Only when my friends are at college do they see her and talk to her if they are forced.
Of course this brings in pity from 2 or 3 (including me) people who feel that she is a nice person though totally unstable. She has brought this on herself by wanting to know every private detail. Plus people have realised she is emotionally manipulative and they dont hold her in very high regard now. She is basically harashing (emotionally) a female of the group, because she is dating (stalker girls ex-boy friend)
Side Note: Present GF is far better for the guy than stalker girl, so group (20 people) sides with present gf.
Anyway 2 or 3 of us really feel sorry for her. But we cant do much. She wont listen to reason and she keeps thinking that her way of doing things is fine. She has only been with the group for 3 months as a friend and not as our friends gf (that makes a big difference in how the relationships are based with the group) and she is failing miserably. So what do would you do in this case?
What am i doing? Simple staying the hell away. Even though i feel i can help, i am not going to. I am a pakistani guy, her family lives here (she lives with her family) and she has “shown interest”. I can get into alot of **** for just trying to help her out. So i am putting my tail between my legs and running as fast as i can.
Do i need to discuss every aspect of my love life with you? (i just need the clarification )
Because she is a nice girl well she was before when i met her with my friend. But its been the last 4 months where i have gotten to know her and for 2 1/2 of those 4 months i have been avoiding her.
Now i feel sorry for her thus i want to help out. But know that it would be futile worse even for me to try. She has low self-esteem. No confidence and self-respect. Not a good place to be and you need someone to talk to, to help you out.
^ And poor girl it is :-p!
Come on CM, she's a sweet girl! I think maybe u mistake her sincere interest in her friends life's as 'wanting to know every detail'
oh and being the saint that you are you want to help her out :rolleyes: if you really are sincere about her, dont bitch and moan about what a psycho she is.
Just answer the question will ya? I have eliminated many things that would complicate (as they have in real life) the situation further. She is in a very bad state, i thought of helping her out and was shot down. I was just want to know what you guys would do. Sheesh.
What am i doing? Simple staying the hell away. Even though i feel i can help, i am not going to. I am a pakistani guy, her family lives here (she lives with her family) and she has "shown interest". I can get into alot of *** for just trying to help her out. So i am putting my tail between my legs and running as fast as i can. *
Staying the hell away? run as fast as you can? You are one big contradiction CM. If you want to help her, sit her down over a cup of coffee and talk about life in general and then get to the problem.
You got a pm your way. I suggest you keep it to yourself.
Secondly there is difference between what i want to do which is help her and what i should do for my own well being which is stay away from her. The two are two different paths.
I have chosen what i need to do. Was wondering what other people would do in such a case.
Well thank goodness that pm cleared the air. Please keep that info to yourself. Anyway now that this thread is ruined, what would you guys do if you were in my situation.
CM I think you should share the contents of the PM. I mean why hide it, I bet youve already told half the world via pm anyway and told them to keep their gobs shut. I think I will discuss the issue with Mad Scientist, what do you say?
Women such naive creatures. Actually you are the only one that knows the contents of the pm and i wish it to remain so. None of my friends in real life know it because:
A. She used to date a good friend of mine.
B. All my friends know i am not interested in her.
C. Some females i know can be extremely protective.
So if i dont tell my real friends, like hell i am gonna discuss this matter over the net.
Secondly keep medic out of this. Last thing i want is him giving me a religious sermon or all of gupshup knowing my private affairs. I gave the information that i thought was necessary to get other peoples opinion on the situation. Other things as mentioned in the pm just make it worse and far more complicated.
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