its not seen as nagging by a woman. a woman thinks "aw look, he's no brute, he really cares - maybe I shoudn't be so hard on him".
Buying her stuff makes it worse. 1. you spoil her and then you just make her materialistic 2. you're not addressing the problem which will tick her off more
And if you dont want to be sensitive, like most men, then this will be a problem you will never be able to solve - not because it doesn't have a solution, but because you're too proud to try new ways.
LMAO!!! Now that is a story M03. so buying stuff bad. Ok have to be sensitive. Yippee. Thanks for the "logical" reasoning behind the evil desire by women to make men suffer.
I think the key is to recognise and accept the differences and use them to your advantage. It's possible! Nothing a little bit of talking can't work out!
FF you are so right, talking is the key....guys really dont get it alot of the time, they really ARE baffled that we are pissed. So no more pouting and sulking gals, lay it on the line in plain, easy to understand language. No yelling necessary....
Most of the time its cause we think that it should be as plain as the nose on your face why we are pissed....that you guys KNOW why we are pissed and are ignoring the issue....until we gals realize that you guys REALLY dont know why we're pissed off, its just warfare. aThis is one of the benefits of marriage and really getting to know your partner....you know what pushes their buttons etc....but till then it really can be difficult ... guys dont know what pisses women off and the women think that the guys are doing it on purpose. hahaha cant live with us, cant live without us right???? LOL!
Now lets hear it my side of the story. Gupshupping my royal a$$. Check the times on my posts and the time the doc called. I was paying for my sins by fixing the space bar on the key board, No darling thats not a toy for kids to play with.
How many times has Sheena stolen food from the counter. Don't expect miracles. Dogs love human food and smells, chicken from Boston Market smells good.
The kids were contained in the den with the dada. When I asked if I could do my chores and throw the garbage out and take out the recycle bin, I was told to wait so that the dogs could rip the garbage apart even more.
Oh while all this is going on our phone rings and there is a door and windows installer that MO3 just out of the blue decided to call and get everything changed, not to mention the new washer that MO3 and MO3s mother went out and bought that Chacha Matsui is gonna come and install. I can only imagine how soon to bankruptcy while your Mother is here.
and I am still happy :D no complaints.
CM: I just let them fret when they become normal they can tell me wtf the issue was.
:) thats my man! CHILL verizon saab, mama all done shopping, told the sears people to go away today....last nite was not typical, i said that in my post....
no probs verizon man! mama luvs u just as u are.....
yes....we do. and it gets really lonely during the day when the dada is off to work. so we get to "chat" a bit here on g/s. till the wondrous day when he can be with us all day every day!! (know of any prosperous farms for sale???) :)
The idea is not to get rid of her. This was not addressed to one specific person. It was regard to all women. The idea is to get to understand what i need to do when a female is pissed off and i have no clue whats wrong.
Secondly anybody gonna answer my question on why women just can't say they are upset?
Thirdly thank you verizon and M03 for theconversation. It has been most entertaining :D
Haha..Verizon and MamaO3 you guys are just fabulous! :D
Well unfortunately I'm learnt that this being pissed off without telling people why your pissed of works for both men and women...even women are oblivious to other women...it's just a gap in communication.
So now when I get pissed I just tell them once nicely, then if they still don't think it's their fault then I tell em again not so nicely with a dash of emotional blackmail and if they still dont feel sorry about it then they get a big time guilt trip speech.
And if you think telling peole works..then you got it all wrong, in fact friends start feeling like "they're not good enough" or that they feel bad in your company, and their often embaressed coz of what they did and feel guilty that you've forgiven them for it...
Sometimes the pouting and the vague rudeness is better...
Again…because we expect you to know that you have been a jerk when you have been a jerk. Problem is it’s probably so natural to guys that they don;t even realise they have been jerks. Thats a big problem and the cause of all subsequent problems.
