So all across this board (and i’m sure in real life as well), whenever someone talks about a “bad” spouse…they always use physical characteristics as somehow.. like the “bad” desi hubby is fat and bald (and in many cases, short and dark and hairY)…while the “bad” desi wife is fat and… short/dark/hairy :halo: I mean why are these simple definitions of someone’s appearance used to describe someone who is not desirable in terms of being a marriage partner, as if fat + hairy = a bad person?
@ the end of the day it's the bonding b/w spouses, understanding and effection for each other that matters ,so things like these should be the criteria in catagorizing whether spouse is good enough or not ................. whereas physical features does hardly matters , reason ?? b/c no one can stay all young and attractive for the whole life
it must be very hurtful for a caring spouse to hear this that the other spouse finds them unattractive.
so, each one has to be mindful of not being insensitive at any time.
if anything what might bring them ever more closer, is their ability to stick by each other and make each other better in every way that they possibly can.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...I've had a crush on this one particular girl for years and years, and it was because of her personality, she is by no means ugly/unappealing but i don't think most men would consider her beautiful, whereas I do. That's why i don't consider arranged marriage an option for people who are not very religious, people need to fall in love with someones personality, not their appearance.
The word "bad" is more explanative about the temperament to me, and this is how in my observation I have seen people refering to their spouses to be. I wonder at such people really who could be so mean to term their better halves bad on their physical appearance.
dont u remember all the fairy tales we use to read. bad people are hideous ,cinderellas sister are not only ugly but stupid,pretty people are always virtuous,fortunate n beautiful since early childhood we start learning this sort of crap
its in our nature to judge a book by the its cover..and its not just us desis who are guilty of this..
what i have seen here is stereotyping as well..but i see a lot of ppl commenting on how they think just because 'someone is pretty she cant be trusted' or if he is rich he wont be faithful kind of attitude..it could just be me..but it really gets me mad...and oh before i forget just because the mother in all is from pakistan..she is paindo and will be all mean and rude and chalak.